Well I have to admit, for both of us it wasn’t completely a blind date. We had seen each other very briefly at a birthday party one year prior.
At this point, I am 27 years old and many people had “blind dates,” for me.
I will admit not all my blind dates were rough, but quite a few were, and I was tainted by some of the blind dates I had been on.
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In particular, the blind date I had recently been on (before I was to be set up with Brad), was not good, it made me loose a lot of faith in blind dates.
So it was the week before I was to be set up with Brad, and I called my mom and said “maybe I wouldn’t go on this next blind date.”
I thought at this point, maybe I just needed to take the summer off from dating and “re-set.”
My mom has always been a good listener. She listened to my points and said “Honey, why don’t you go on this one more blind date with this nice boy, and then if it’s not great you can take the summer off from dating.”
You can’t say “no” to your mom, who you love and has your best interest in mind.
So, I decided to follow through with the blind date…….
Maybe you’re not sure what that is, or why people have date nights?
Well, I can tell you that date nights in our marriage are not just important .. they are VITAL.
And even though I know I’m not a marriage expert by any means .. I know date nights are vital for ALL couples.
So here is why I keep “dating” my husband:
1-Communication with each other. It’s easy to get busy with kids and work and such, and forget to take time as a couple to just talk, to connect and to communicate with each other.
2- Growing deeper in our understanding of one another. What does this mean? Talking about the highlights and low points of our days, weeks and year—and understand where our spouse is struggling or excelling. By understanding each other more, we can empathize with each other more and connect in a more positive way.
3- Physically being near one another. I remember going to dinner with my husband and having the thought “goodness my husband has the best smile.” Just taking time to physically “fall in love” with each other again is key.
4- Emotional and spiritual bonding. If couples aren’t going out together, it’s difficult to grow emotionally and spiritually. Driving in the car and having a deep discussion without interruption may be an example of an emotional or spiritual connection. It’s hard to make these connections with a spouse when there’s a lot of distraction all around.
5-Strengthening friendship. At the end of the day your spouse should not only be a friend, but I would argue your spouse should be your best friend. Spending time with your spouse is a key component to creating a strong friendship. And friendships must continue to be nurtured. Even the best friendships can be broken if there is little to not time spent to help keep them strong.
6- Sharing beautiful moments with each other. Your spouse is the one that will experience life with you, so who better to share beautiful moments with than your sweet spouse?
I know for me personally, I look forward to date nights more than pretty much anything. Having a moment to be exclusively and solely with my spouse is a time to reconnect and prioritize relationships.
If you have young kids, understand it’s not selfish to go on date nights. Those children need to see their parents dating and in love. The example of prioritizing the marriage relationship is key.
My parents have been married over 50 years and something that warms my heart is that they go on date nights weekly!
It doesn’t matter that my parents have been together longer than they’ve been apart. Their friendship and relationship is prioritized as very important and what a tribute it is to see them enjoying each other’s company for so many years and making time for date nights!
So if you’re married, take time for the date night!
I could write in depth about the importance of date nights but just know, it’s so important for so many reasons.