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Why Motherhood Is Messy–a Beautiful Messy

Here me out…I am not here to complain or grumble about Motherhood.

When I say Motherhood is messy I truly mean it in a beautiful way.

Rewind to me being overly stressed not just by Motherhood, but by life…and my counseler encouraging me to make 3 Mantras.

One of my mantras: Motherhood is Messy.

Why that mantra?

Well, ever since I can remember, I have only wanted to be a mother.

Sure finding a job and career was great, but I couldn’t wait to settle down and get married and become a mother.

And I waited.

And I waited.

All through the decades of my “glorious 20’s” I waited to be a mother.

I held many beautiful babies in that decade, and could only hope that one day, I too would have a little child of my own.

Blessings came, the love of my life came and we were married.

It was only 11 months later that we welcomed our sweet baby boy into our lives.

And oh how beautiful was the day when I could finally be a mother.

Instantly, I changed.

In some ways it was a good change, in other ways, not so good.

An anxiousness crept over me.

I wanted nothing but to keep this tiny human child of mine safe and happy and I would do anything to accomplish that.

Anything to the degree of waking up every two hours to rock this new baby back to sleep because he was a terrible sleeper and I wanted to keep him comfortable and happy.

I loved being with my sweet baby every minute, and carried “mom guilt” thinking maybe I didn’t read to him enough, or give him enough veggies and fruits, and the list goes on.

And yet, I loved every minute of taking this sweet baby to the park and cuddling on him and just being with him.

And then I had my second child, and then not too long after that my third child.

I had my beautiful babies, 3 kids in 4 years and I was grateful, and happy but also tired and overwhelmed.

It was messy! I was emotional because I was drained, and I was emotional because I was grateful and happy.

And guess what?

It wasn’t exactly like I had pictured motherhood.

As a child I viewed motherhood as quite simple, and easy and smooth.

I had set this expectation up in my mind that motherhood was beautiful in every single aspect.

And motherhood is beautiful in many ways…but guess what?

Anything that is beautiful, has it’s messy sides too.

If you combine it together, it’s a beautiful mess.

A beautiful mess that I had to learn to juggle differently.

To be honest, it’s a beautiful mess that I am STILL trying to juggle through.

I get anxious over many things with my beautiful kids, and I pray every day to let FAITH rise over my FEARS.

That protective mama bear is real and it can be hard to simmer the mama bear down and let the bear cubs breathe, and learn through their bumps and bruises.

Everyday in motherhood, no matter how old your child is, your mind is constantly thinking about those beautiful babies. Sometimes, it can be a real challenge to find that “balance” in life.

And the big one for this MAMA, is to drop the expectations.

That in no way means to be a terrible, mean, mother.

More-so, don’t set expectations that EVERY day in motherhood will be easy and amazing and if it’s not that YOU FAILED. Because it’s not the case.

Motherhood is messy.

In fact, going to Disneyworld was a beautiful mess too!

It’s a beautiful mess and let’s be honest, most days, there will be some tears in the home. Whether it be from the kids or from mom herself.

And that’s ok.

You know why it’s ok?

Nobody completely has motherhood figured out.

Motherhood is a day-to-day process, where some days look and seem better than others.

However, if you look back at each day, you realize even in the messes, there were beautiful messes.

Simple moments that are dear and precious to mothers hearts, that leave imprints on the soul for good, forever.

Yes, I will tell you time and time again.

Motherhood is messy.

It’s a beautiful mess in every way.

No mother has a perfect day, we are all learning along the way.

And there is NO other mess I would rather be in, then this beautiful, crazy, wonderful, chaotic and heartwarming mess of motherhood.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Baby, Family, kids, Lifestyle, Parenting, Relationships

Motherhood unfiltered – a moment that was priceless

For everyone in those years of motherhood where all the children are cute and young, adorable but very dependent … today was a day!

Fatigue settles in and I had high hopes of taking a nap while my two little ones napped hoping my older son would play with some toys or draw a picture…. something, anything.

Just as I was getting my son situated to not need me for a bit… my baby woke up, her nap was over and now my chance to rest was gone.

This is not the first time this has happened so I’ve told myself to never get my “heart -set” on taking a nap… and yet it’s hard to keep going when energy levels are low.

But we do keep going because we are moms and we know that’s what our family needs us to do right?

Baby girl with her fancy sunglasses

Well we had some errands to run and I promised the kids a vanilla ice cream come from McDonalds after errands.

Baby girl who is 16 months had her first ice cream cone and she was messier than ever but loved it so much!

I took baby girl out of the car seat and sat down by her, eye level, to clean her face.

I meant to say “give mommy a lick,” because the ice cream looked tasty and it was dripping everywhere… but instead I said “give mommy kiss.”

Well that little cutie puckered up her ice cream face and went in for the biggest kiss and love.

And then when I asked for another kiss she walked away and was too busy.

It literally melted my heart because the kiss came unexpectedly and so quick, but it was so genuine and sweet.

That little kiss from baby girl reminded me that these little ones may be precious to us, but we are so precious to them.

My 2 sweet girls

Our kids love us and show us small acts of endearment throughout the day, if we can just focus on seeing the love.

That little surprise kiss today was the best “pick me up,” and I forgot about how tired I had felt.

When my oldest climbs in for cuddles … my heart melts

I’ve heard it said a million times, but right when we think we as parents are teaching our kids all the important things in life… it’s truly the children that have been teaching us all along.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Top 6 Mom Hacks I Use Daily

The video above goes into detail about the mom hacks that help me daily.

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1-Use Essential oil drops to keep the toilet smelling fresh and clean.

2- Store your makeup brushes in a mason jar.

3- Place baby wipes throughout the house to use to clean up a variety of items.

4- Keep a monthly calendar/schedule in your kitchen to stay organized.

5-Clean your face masks by first placing them in a lingerie bag and then placing the lingerie bag in the washer.

6- Write your “to-do” list on your bathroom mirror with a dry-erase marker. When you complete all your tasks, clean the mirror.

What mom hacks do you use daily?

I would love to hear!

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Life Lately

How is your January looking ?

For our little family … we are getting back into a routine with things.

Makell loves baby cuddles.

My oldest son goes to kindergarten Monday-Thursday, and I’m learning how to teach him on Fridays… and it’s been fun!

My son has learned a lot this year —it’s crazy to see him sounding out words and recognizing words. He doesn’t always want to do school work, and I don’t push him too much because at the end of the day, I want school to be fun for him.

Cade -5 years old loving his Star Wars book

Cade, our boy, has a neighbor friend that comes to play most days .. and he looks forward to playing everyday. Cade is our social boy and loves people.

Makell— (3 years) our middle child and oldest daughter, she has enjoyed preschool two days a week.

Makell loves to be like her big brother so she feels pretty special to be in school.

Makell loves art and drawing and has learned to write an “M” and an “O” and an “A” on papers.

Makell is so nurturing and caring. Nobody takes care of their dolls better than Makell. Makell’s baby dolls are always wrapped up nice sleeping ..all over the house.

We find piles of dolls or stuffed animals neatly placed throughout the house.

Makell also has a sassy side and I would put money down that she has the loudest cry of all the girls out there.

We love our sweet Makell and it’s fun listening to her talk and grow.. her vocabulary has grown so much in the past little while.

Makell- 3 yrs. old

Taya can be summed up as cute and busy!

She started taking a few walking steps at Thanksgiving and is walking longer and longer now.

She opens and dumps out anything she can, she tries to eat everything, and she is copying many of the words we say.

Taya is known as “smiley” because she truly is smiling about 90% of the time.. and we love that about her.

Yes she can get mad when she doesn’t get her way, but we love her so much.

Taya 14 months

My husband stays busy with a busy job, church calling, and he’s such a hard working father and husband.

My husband, Brad, is handy and can figure out how to build or fix about anything.

He has learned to bake bread and that is our family’s Sunday activity… and then we deliver a bunch of bread to people who may enjoy it.

Brad is so good at serving others, his focus is always on how he can help others.

Brad is great to get a workout in, and he also takes time to study his scriptures daily and write in his journal.

As for me.. my cute little family keeps me busy! There is never a dull moment with three young kids.

I always challenge myself throughout the day to tidy something in the house … just because these days we have a lot of toys everywhere and if I can find a few spaces to de-clutter, I feel accomplished and more organized.

I love to cook and enjoy trying new gluten-free recipes.

I also stay busy with a church calling. My goal this month has been to strengthen myself spiritually and it’s been so good for me to focus on my spiritual goals.

Mom and baby up early and getting some cuddles.

I am in a workout class and have enjoyed building and strengthening muscles .. as well as losing weight.

This blog always keeps me thinking —and I enjoy the challenge of this blog. I also just love to write.

I have had fun putting makeup on faces … as some of you know I’m a Seint artist.

I have enjoyed watching “The Crown” while folding laundry or while running on the treadmill.

And honestly I can say , life is busy —yet so wonderful all wrapped in one.

I will note, the winter time can be a bit hard on me mentally. Perhaps it’s the lack of sun and being indoors more… but I’m trying to be aware of this factor about myself and push through it.

I talk to my sweet mom pretty much everyday and she is such a sweet and uplifting voice for me.

And I can’t forget how nice it’s been to visit with friends lately, even if it’s Marco Polo.

Our life lately has been wonderful… we look forward to this upcoming year with positivity and happiness.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Motherhood Unfiltered Part 1.

This is a series of post that I will continue to add to because, well, it’s a HUGE part of who I am and there are so many thoughts that can go into this topic.

Motherhood unfiltered.

We live in a society of filters.

We live where something that looks amazing and beautiful … isn’t valid because it’s been manipulated in a way —in which it looses its raw identity.

Motherhood has been filtered and I want to talk about the unfiltered.

Motherhood is hard and beautiful all rolled into one.

There are moments of beauty and peace, and moments of anxiety and turmoil.

Motherhood is not easy, it is hands down the HARDEST thing I myself have ever done, and yet it is the best thing I’ve ever done as well.

Found moms blue eyeshadow.

Within a thirty minute time period, my emotions travel from happy, to sad, to excited, and mad, to laughing, to crying and on and on.

The mental exhaustion is the test of motherhood. And yet, with that comes some of the most precious moments that will ever occur in life.

Those precious moments of “I love you,” or “mommy you’re my favorite,” watching your children light up when you come home from a night out..those are the precious moments that are truly priceless.

So yes motherhood is amazing and hard —and don’t be fooled by the pictures on social media that everyone has it “figured out” better than you.

Just remember motherhood is an incredible journey …it will always have ups and downs but in end .. it will be worth the wonderful ride.

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Newborn Baby…

Having a newborn can be so incredible and amazing. And yet, it also can be challenging and exhausting.

When I became a new mom I felt like I knew the basics:

– Sleep when baby sleeps

-You will be tired and that’s ok

– Swaddle your baby

-Change the Diaper every 2-4 hours

And the list goes on.

Well, there was still A LOTTT I did not know about having a newborn, so hopefully this can be helpful to you!

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THINGS I WISH I NEW BEFORE HAVING A NEWBORN BABY

  • Everyone parents differently, because EVERYONE has different children. Don’t listen to everyone’s “advice,” take them into account and do what is best for YOU and YOUR baby.
  • Give your babies vitamin D drops everyday.
  • When your baby sleeps, you can get a few things done if it’s stressing you out. HOWEVER, if you can catch up on rest and sleep while the baby is sleeping–DO IT!

  • You shouldn’t work out for 6-8 weeks after having a baby. But if you can go on short walks, just enough to move around and get outside it helps. Moving your body is so key to a healthy mental state.
  • Pay to get newborn pictures taken. Babies change so fast and getting nice pictures of them is priceless.
  • Having a baby is time consuming. It’s such a beautiful stage of life, but it can be enduring. Make sure you take time for some self-care. Have a hobby that you are working on, go to the store alone, or dinner with friends. Being a new mom is wonderful, and yet, completely changing ALL the norms is hard. It’s important to take care of YOU so that you can be a happier mom for that sweet baby.
  • If breastfeeding is hard, enduring and not working well, don’t do it, and don’t feel guilty about it. Period.

  • Take care of your baby’s bum to prevent diaper rash. Be faithful about putting ointment on their bum so that they are not sore and miserable.
  • If your baby is crying most the day, take the baby to the doctor. If things are not changing and the baby is still crying, let the doctor know it is getting overwhelming. Try second opinions such as chiropractors, chiropractors know some great things for colicky babies
  • Invest in an owlet if at all possible. It’s a foot monitor that can give you peace of mind that your baby is breathing and sleeping well.
  • Keep some type of journal or log of your baby’s growth and development. It is so much fun to look back on baby milestone, and it reminds you what a blessing it is to have your sweet little baby!
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Enjoy the moments with your little one, it’s a heavenly experience in so many ways.

And as always, if you have more items you would add to my list, let me know in the comments below.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle

Confessions of an impatient mom….

Patience is not my strong suit.

Compassion, I do pretty well, loyalty and integrity seem to be qualities I possess… but patience is a struggle.

So how then do I be a good, kind, mom to two toddlers and a baby… when I’m impatient?

Throw in a baby that is sleep regressing, and my impatient gets pretty bad!

My little 3 year old is regressing in her potty training and this mama…. lost ALL her patience today.

I yelled at this cute little girl and took her new doll into “toy jail.”

My patience was gone and my poor little 3 year old was the victim.

My cute little 3 year old daughter who loves to look “pretty”

And then you know what happened after I lost my marbles ??

I felt terrible.

I went to my 3 year old and told her I was so sorry I yelled at her, embarrassed her, and hurt her feelings.

And you know what that 3 year old did ?

She ran up to me and gave me a big hug and a kiss. It melted my mama heart.

Guess who has the best patience ?

My little ones.

They are patient with me learning the ropes as a mom to three littles, and they are patient when I’m short with them and hurt their feelings.

Kids can teach us so much.

Every night I pray to the Lord to bless me with more patience.

And right in front of my eyes, the Lord puts my own children as examples and reminds me how to be patient.

I can’t promise I’ll be a patient mom after this incident.

My weakness has always been impatience.

However, I can tell you I will work harder at not yelling, not getting so quick to get upset … I’ll look to my kids and try to be patient like they are with me.

Mommy and daughter

Bless these little ones who help us with our worst qualities.

From one impatient mom that is trying to recover!

xoxo,

Christy Lee