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Do You Ever Want a “Re-Do” When It Comes To Parenting Moments?

Parenting is amazing, and yet parenting is hard.

I had a moment this morning with my little girl, that made me reflect on parenting.

Rewind a bit.

I am reading Brene Browns book “Daring Greatly” and I love it and highly recommend it.

If you haven’t read this book, it goes into detail about “Shame” and how detrimental “shame” is for many people.

Keeping that in mind…..

I was reading about SHAME last night and I was pondering many moments of parenting in which I was worried I had “shamed” my kids in detrimental ways.

One specific concern is with my 4 year old daughter who HATES to go to the bathroom.

Yes, she has been potty trained for over a year, but she is not a fan of going to the bathroom.

I usually have to bribe her, or walk her into the bathroom, she just doesn’t do it very willingly or independently, and it has definitely tested my patience.

My sweet girl

Well, this morning I had asked her my normal half a dozen times to go to the bathroom.

She hadn’t gone yet, and when it hit emergency mode she needed my help because she was wearing a long nightgown that she needed me to hold.

This cute little 4 year old was right in front of the toilet but she didn’t make it.

I sat there holding her nightgown up as she went to the bathroom all over my master bathroom floor…(palm to face).

Without thinking, I started to scream for a minute and as soon as I did my cute little 4 year old started saying “sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry!!”

I immediately gathered my emotions together.

I stopped yelling and freaking out.

On the inside I was very frustrated but I knew that I had TWO choices.

As a parent I could “shame” her and make her feel terrible and guilty even though she already knew she had made a mistake.

OR

I could be patient, make this little incident a teaching moment, and move on…because the reality is, she’s only 4 years old and bless her heart she’s trying.

Was is easy to stop myself from getting boiling mad and upset?!

No. You’re talking to the germaphobe here so cleaning up toilet issues is not my thing.

However, I love my sweet girl.

My sweet girl in her nightgown I had to help her with

She is learning everyday, and guess what, so am I.

As a mother, I make my mistakes too and I can’t expect my young, sweet 4 year old to do everything perfectly.

It’s hard to not REACT, somehow that’s what I usually turn to.

However, I am learning if we choose LOVE over all the other options, things will be better.

Yes I have probably scarred my kids in some ways already.

No parent is perfect.

Parenting is truly a moment-to-moment basis…where if we can just react with love through all the moments, our kids will know that we love them, despite some of the mistakes they make along the way.

I truly believe I was meant to read about “Shame” last night so that I could handle this mornings situation better than normal.

Will I make mistakes as I continue on the parenting journey?

Sure, it’s natural.

And yet, as long as our focus is love, and if we are truly trying to “not-scar” our children, things will work out.

We can’t “Re-do” all our parenting moments.

And yet, we can sure a lot from each moment with our kids. And we can try to do better with each situation that comes.

Moral of the story?

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Treat your kids with love and respect despite their weaknesses. Discipline them when necessary, but as long as our kids know that we love them know matter what, our kids will feel safe, happy and will grow.

Parenting is a beautiful, hard, amazing and difficult job all wrapped in one, and oh how blessed we are to have our beautiful children in our lives.

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, kids, Lifestyle, Parenting

How to Make Home Made Foam

Do you ever need a fun and easy activity to help entertain your kids?

This foam recipe is perfect for kids of all ages!

Even better, this foam recipe only uses 2 ingredients!

The best part?

This foam kept my kids busy for well over an hour!

Foam is such easy cleanup and it’s a great sensory outlet for kids.

We made pink and blue foam.

What you’ll need:

-Bins for the foam to go in so your kids can play with it.

-A big bowl to make the foam in

-beaters for mixing the foam

My cute little ones could play with foam for hours!

Ingredients:

2 Tablespoons of tear free baby wash or shampoo

1/4 cup water

Instructions:

1. Combine water and baby wash/ shampoo into bowl. (Optional-food coloring).

2. Mix with beaters on medium speed until desired consistency.

3. Have fun!

Let me know if you end up making this foam, I’d love to hear how it goes!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Gluten-Free Snacks for Kids

Here is the list and some clickable links to find out our favorite gluten-free snacks for kids.

We know kids can be “picky” but all of these ideas passed some of the pickiest eaters.

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  1. YumEarth Organic Licorice

2. Snyders Gluten-Free Pretzels

3. Chips & Salsa (Pace Salsa)

4. String Cheese

5. Any Fruits & Veggies

6. Cheese & Crackers (Miltons gluten-free crackers with sea salt)

7. Gluten-Free Candy Cane JoJo cookies (Trader Joes)

8. Gogurt

9. Fairlife lactose-free chocolate milk

10. Popcorn

11.Cretors carmel and cheese popcorn

I hope this list is helpful!

Here is the video link.

Let me know what you would add to this list.

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Baby, Family, kids, Lifestyle, Relationships

What I do know about Parenting

Let’s be honest, there is A LOT that I don’t know about parenting.

Even when three young kids, somedays I roam the parenting life oblivious to what I should be doing.

However, I always remind myself that the things I DO KNOW about parenting, help me get through all that I don’t know.

My sweet little family. ❤️

So let’s start with what I don’t know about parenting.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get all of my kids to sleep through the night, in their beds, period. We have tried the books and the help and we still end up with one…sometimes two kids in our bed.

Our kids are young…5 years, 3 years, and 1 year old.

We had a big earthquake here back in March and I can honestly say my three year old daughter has never slept the same since then.

So I admit, I don’t know how to get my kids to sleep well through the night.

I also don’t know how to deal with the different emotions and personalities that each child has.

All three of my kids are very different from each other, and they respond to discipline, love, and all things differently.

It’s a learning curve, maybe one day I will figure it out, but not right now.

Reading time with dad❤️

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get my kids to eat every meal without a fight, or without having to fix a separate side meal for some of my kids.

I have picky eaters, and I don’t know how to make them like certain foods.

Is it possible to make kids like certain foods?

I don’t know that.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to make sure I am meeting all of my children’s emotional needs.

There is no sign or signal that let’s us know if we are helping our children emotionally to the capacity that they each need. Is it possible to know that?

What I don’t know about parenting is how to be a kind, patient mom when trying to get kids packed into the van to get to school on time.

I am sure some parents have this figured out, but I don’t. I can bribe kids…that way I am not raising my voice as much, but I’m not sure that quite counts?

What I don’t know about parenting is …a continual thing.

However ….

What I DO KNOW about parenting is that the love a parent has for a child is indescribable.

And if we as parents can transfer that LOVE into every interaction we have with our kids….

Then we have EVERY part of parenting figured out.

Our cute kids playing together with smiles ❤️

We won’t have all the answers … raising children takes me to my knees a lot, asking Heavenly Father what I can do to be a better parent.

And what I feel from Heavenly Father is LOVE— and that is always the answer.

Love your kids through everything.

Love them through the tantrums and the heartache.

Love your kids through successes and honors…

If we love our kids through every decision and every move they make … they will FEEL that love in their hearts.

I felt it from mine.

That love will carry your children through all the pain and all the happiness.

So when it’s hard to know just how to discipline or work through a disagreement with your child.. stop and think of how your actions show love?

Love will change the world, one child at a time.

It starts with how we parent. When we parent with LOVE as the goal everyday… our children will benefit through indescribable ways.

That’s the only thing I know about parenting …that loving our kids through thick and thin is the key.

And guess what?

As long as that’s all we know… To love our children unconditionally … it all works out in the end.

Good luck parents!

You got this:)

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle

Confessions of an impatient mom….

Patience is not my strong suit.

Compassion, I do pretty well, loyalty and integrity seem to be qualities I possess… but patience is a struggle.

So how then do I be a good, kind, mom to two toddlers and a baby… when I’m impatient?

Throw in a baby that is sleep regressing, and my impatient gets pretty bad!

My little 3 year old is regressing in her potty training and this mama…. lost ALL her patience today.

I yelled at this cute little girl and took her new doll into “toy jail.”

My patience was gone and my poor little 3 year old was the victim.

My cute little 3 year old daughter who loves to look “pretty”

And then you know what happened after I lost my marbles ??

I felt terrible.

I went to my 3 year old and told her I was so sorry I yelled at her, embarrassed her, and hurt her feelings.

And you know what that 3 year old did ?

She ran up to me and gave me a big hug and a kiss. It melted my mama heart.

Guess who has the best patience ?

My little ones.

They are patient with me learning the ropes as a mom to three littles, and they are patient when I’m short with them and hurt their feelings.

Kids can teach us so much.

Every night I pray to the Lord to bless me with more patience.

And right in front of my eyes, the Lord puts my own children as examples and reminds me how to be patient.

I can’t promise I’ll be a patient mom after this incident.

My weakness has always been impatience.

However, I can tell you I will work harder at not yelling, not getting so quick to get upset … I’ll look to my kids and try to be patient like they are with me.

Mommy and daughter

Bless these little ones who help us with our worst qualities.

From one impatient mom that is trying to recover!

xoxo,

Christy Lee