It’s a good question: “How well do you take care of yourself?”
Think about it for a minute.
On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being you make sure to have time every single day to focus on “yourself” in a healthy manner, and 1 being you rarely if ever do anything for yourself. Where would you land on the scale?
Is it selfish to take care of yourself?
No way, not when you are taking care of yourself in a healthy manner.
Being selfish is a completely different thing, where you only think of yourself, your wants, needs etc.
We are talking about, do you take care of your body, your mind, your spirit and your soul?
And if you don’t, think about why not?
Try to remove one stumbling block you have today, that may be keeping you from taking care of yourself.
You can look at my self-care list, or you can create your own, just try every day to do something for yourself that can better who you are as a person.
The list goes on and on. You know what is best for you.
I believe so many of us, get stuck in the cycle of hustling from place to place, taking care of others, or accomplishing multiple tasks…that we forget about keep OURSELVES healthy.
I had a moment this morning with my little girl, that made me reflect on parenting.
Rewind a bit.
I am reading Brene Browns book “Daring Greatly” and I love it and highly recommend it.
If you haven’t read this book, it goes into detail about “Shame” and how detrimental “shame” is for many people.
Keeping that in mind…..
I was reading about SHAME last night and I was pondering many moments of parenting in which I was worried I had “shamed” my kids in detrimental ways.
One specific concern is with my 4 year old daughter who HATES to go to the bathroom.
Yes, she has been potty trained for over a year, but she is not a fan of going to the bathroom.
I usually have to bribe her, or walk her into the bathroom, she just doesn’t do it very willingly or independently, and it has definitely tested my patience.
Well, this morning I had asked her my normal half a dozen times to go to the bathroom.
She hadn’t gone yet, and when it hit emergency mode she needed my help because she was wearing a long nightgown that she needed me to hold.
This cute little 4 year old was right in front of the toilet but she didn’t make it.
I sat there holding her nightgown up as she went to the bathroom all over my master bathroom floor…(palm to face).
Without thinking, I started to scream for a minute and as soon as I did my cute little 4 year old started saying “sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry!!”
I immediately gathered my emotions together.
I stopped yelling and freaking out.
On the inside I was very frustrated but I knew that I had TWO choices.
As a parent I could “shame” her and make her feel terrible and guilty even though she already knew she had made a mistake.
I could be patient, make this little incident a teaching moment, and move on…because the reality is, she’s only 4 years old and bless her heart she’s trying.
Was is easy to stop myself from getting boiling mad and upset?!
No. You’re talking to the germaphobe here so cleaning up toilet issues is not my thing.
However, I love my sweet girl.
She is learning everyday, and guess what, so am I.
As a mother, I make my mistakes too and I can’t expect my young, sweet 4 year old to do everything perfectly.
It’s hard to not REACT, somehow that’s what I usually turn to.
However, I am learning if we choose LOVE over all the other options, things will be better.
Yes I have probably scarred my kids in some ways already.
No parent is perfect.
Parenting is truly a moment-to-moment basis…where if we can just react with love through all the moments, our kids will know that we love them, despite some of the mistakes they make along the way.
I truly believe I was meant to read about “Shame” last night so that I could handle this mornings situation better than normal.
Will I make mistakes as I continue on the parenting journey?
Sure, it’s natural.
And yet, as long as our focus is love, and if we are truly trying to “not-scar” our children, things will work out.
We can’t “Re-do” all our parenting moments.
And yet, we can sure a lot from each moment with our kids. And we can try to do better with each situation that comes.
Moral of the story?
Treat your kids with love and respect despite their weaknesses. Discipline them when necessary, but as long as our kids know that we love them know matter what, our kids will feel safe, happy and will grow.
Parenting is a beautiful, hard, amazing and difficult job all wrapped in one, and oh how blessed we are to have our beautiful children in our lives.
So before I continue on about this post I have to honestly say, I know there’s far worse things than having to eat gluten-free.
In fact, when I was diagnosed with celiacs disease my nurse told me that celiacs is the best disease you could ask for…meaning if you had to choose a disease, celiacs would be the easiest one to deal with.
And I agreed and still do agree.
However what’s easier than Celiacs or being gluten-intolerant?
Not having celiacs or being gluten-intolerant.
Really, this post may sound like a venting session, but it’s meant more so to be a validation post on how the gluten-free lifestyle can be hard.
Here are my 3 Reasons Living a Gluten-free Lifestyle can be Annoyingly Hard..
Living a gluten-free lifestyle can be hard because your mind is constantly living in food limitations.
Yes there are so many great gluten free options these days, but there are still plenty of items that aren’t gluten free, which makes food choices seem limiting.
Think of fast food , there’s a few fast food chains that have caught onto offering gluten-free food items, but not many.
So really, there are very few fast and convenient gluten-free options. Again, limiting the types of food for people with celiacs or gluten-intolerant.
The limitations can be hard.
There may be some people that like the attention that living gluten-free brings, but if you’re like me, you’d prefer to not drive all the attention that comes with living a gluten-free lifestyle.
For example, a group of close friends wants to go to dinner..they start discussing restaurants and the opinion always comes back to you because you’re the one that can’t eat gluten.
Your friends want you to help choose a place that is “gluten-friendly.” Of course this is very kind of your friends, but sometimes you feel like it could be nice to say “I don’t care where we eat.” And yet, you have to care.
And then when you get to the restaurant, you ask the waiter/waitress for a gluten-free menu … more attention, and then when the server brings your meal they always say “this is the gluten free entree”… more attention.
There’s no way around the attention, it’s not a terrible thing, but some days I think it’s the simplicity of things that is missed the most.
3-Fear of Food
Honestly, this is one point I’m working on myself.
There is definitely a different connection with food when you have celiacs or are gluten-intolerant.
There’s a fear of getting sick from all types of food.
Sure there comes a point where we all feel more confident with finding gluten-free food.
And yet, there are still times where gluten can be disguised in different food items which can result in many side effects if consumed. For many with celiacs and gluten-intolerance , we get very sick if we consume gluten.
So yes there seems to be now a new relationship with food.
Almost like a trust issue with food.
There’s somewhat of an anxiousness connected to food.
And food is something we have to have every day, throughout the day.
So yes if we don’t control that fear of food, it can quickly cause someone to be quite anxious.
And it’s no fun to live everyday worrying about what foods you can and can’t eat.
Yes it gets easier as you become more accustom to a gluten-free lifestyle.
However, it can be a constant battle to not gravitate to “fear” when it comes to eating foods.
All in all, living a gluten-free lifestyle is definitely something anyone can do.
A gluten-free lifestyle is not always easy, and yet, thankfully, things have improved in our day and age and there are many more gluten-free options than ever before.
Gluten-free living comes with many challenges, but I have learned a lot through my gluten-free journey, and I’m grateful that celiacs is a very treatable disease.
I would love to hear your experience with living a gluten-free lifestyle.