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How is your January looking ?

For our little family … we are getting back into a routine with things.

My oldest son Cade goes to kindergarten Monday-Thursday, and I’m learning how to teach him on Fridays… and it’s been fun!

January 2021

My son has learned a lot this year —it’s crazy to see him sounding out words and recognizing words. He doesn’t always want to do school work, and I don’t push him too much because at the end of the day, I want school to be fun for him.

Cade’s kindergarten picture

Cade, our boy, has a neighbor friend that comes to play most days .. and he looks forward to playing everyday. Cade is our social boy and loves people.

Makell— (3 years) our middle child and oldest daughter, she has enjoyed preschool two days a week.

Makell loves to be like her big brother so she feels pretty special to be in school.

Makell loves art and drawing and has learned to write an “M” and an “O” on papers.

Makell started dance classes this fall and I absolutely love and enjoy watching her dance, it’s so cute and adorable! And she loves to get dressed up and put on makeup for her dance recitals!

Makell at her dress rehearsal for dance class.

Makell is so nurturing and caring. Nobody takes care of their dolls bet tree than Makell. Makell’s baby dolls are always wrapped up nice sleeping ..all over the house.

Makell also has a sassy side and I would put money down that she has the loudest cry of all the girls out there.

We love our sweet Makell and it’s fun listening to her talk and grow.. her vocabulary has grown so much in the past little while.

Taya can be summed up as cute and busy!

She started taking a few walking steps at Thanksgiving and is walking further and further now.

She opens and dumps out anything she can, she tries to eat everything, and she is copying many of the words we say.

“Smiley”

Taya is known as “smiley” because she truly is smiling about 90% of the time.. and we love that about her.

Yes she can get mad when she doesn’t get her way, but we love her so much.

My husband -Brad, stays busy with a busy job, church calling, and he’s such a hard working father and husband.

Brad is handy and can figure out how to build or fix about anything.

Brad has recently learned to bake bread and baking bread is our family’s Sunday activity… and then we deliver a bunch of bread to people who may enjoy it!

Brad is so good at serving others, his focus is always on how he can help others.

Brad is great to get a workout in, and he also takes time to study his scriptures daily and write in his journal.

And let’s just say when we hear the garage go up in the evening, and Brad’s car rolls in, we are all standing at the door excited to great him!

As for me, I stay plenty busy.

My three kids are all at fun, yet busy stages.

I have become the carpool mom this year with kindergarten and preschool.

I guess you would say I’m stepping into a new stage of life.

It’s fun to see my kids learn and grow, and when I have to teach kindergarten on Fridays (my son works from home on Fridays), I realize just how amazing kindergarten teachers are, because my cute son does not have a long attention span.

I love blogging and writing.

I also enjoy being a Seint Makeup Artist and it has been fun to see my makeup company grow over the year.

Cooking and baking (gluten-free) is always something I look forward to.

And since the end of August, I have been lifting, working out, and working on nutrition so that I can finally lose my baby weight. It’s been wonderful to feel more in shape, and I love working out!

As for cleaning our house, there are still aspects of cleaning and organizing that I love–even though currently our house is not as spotless as it used to be.

I have quite a few goals for the new year, and this month specifically–my focus is straightening my spirituality.

I would dare say, not just myself, but as an entire family we look forward to the weekends.

On Friday nights, if everyone gets chores and homework complete, we have a family movie night with popcorn and all. And it’s so fun to see our little ones get so excited to watch a movie all together. We all look forward to family movie night!

On Saturdays we spend the day together and usually get some cleaning done and run errands together.

Sunday in our church attire.

And the best is Sunday. We are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and we have a program called “Come Follow Me,” where we have lessons about our scriptures.

This year our “Come Follow Me” lessons are about the Doctrine and Covenants and it has been so neat to learn more about this book of scriptures.

We also enjoy attending sacrament meeting as a family on Sundays.

I could summarize and say that life lately, is busy and exciting and yet wonderful and precious.

There are parts of me that would love to “Freeze” time because our little ones are growing so fast.

And yet, watching our little ones grow has been amazing to witness as well.

My husband and I would love to get out on date nights more, it has been hard to get out with the pandemic right now, but hopefully, as things get better, my hubs and I can enjoy some quality time together.

Overall, our family is excited for the New Year of 2021 and we hope that there are many great things in store for us all.

Until Next Time,

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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What I do know about Parenting

Let’s be honest, there is A LOT that I don’t know about parenting.

Even when three young kids, somedays I roam the parenting life oblivious to what I should be doing.

However, I always remind myself that the things I DO KNOW about parenting, help me get through all that I don’t know.

My sweet little family. ❤️

So let’s start with what I don’t know about parenting.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get all of my kids to sleep through the night, in their beds, period. We have tried the books and the help and we still end up with one…sometimes two kids in our bed.

Our kids are young…5 years, 3 years, and 1 year old.

We had a big earthquake here back in March and I can honestly say my three year old daughter has never slept the same since then.

So I admit, I don’t know how to get my kids to sleep well through the night.

I also don’t know how to deal with the different emotions and personalities that each child has.

All three of my kids are very different from each other, and they respond to discipline, love, and all things differently.

It’s a learning curve, maybe one day I will figure it out, but not right now.

Reading time with dad❤️

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get my kids to eat every meal without a fight, or without having to fix a separate side meal for some of my kids.

I have picky eaters, and I don’t know how to make them like certain foods.

Is it possible to make kids like certain foods?

I don’t know that.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to make sure I am meeting all of my children’s emotional needs.

There is no sign or signal that let’s us know if we are helping our children emotionally to the capacity that they each need. Is it possible to know that?

What I don’t know about parenting is how to be a kind, patient mom when trying to get kids packed into the van to get to school on time.

I am sure some parents have this figured out, but I don’t. I can bribe kids…that way I am not raising my voice as much, but I’m not sure that quite counts?

What I don’t know about parenting is …a continual thing.

However ….

What I DO KNOW about parenting is that the love a parent has for a child is indescribable.

And if we as parents can transfer that LOVE into every interaction we have with our kids….

Then we have EVERY part of parenting figured out.

Our cute kids playing together with smiles ❤️

We won’t have all the answers … raising children takes me to my knees a lot, asking Heavenly Father what I can do to be a better parent.

And what I feel from Heavenly Father is LOVE— and that is always the answer.

Love your kids through everything.

Love them through the tantrums and the heartache.

Love your kids through successes and honors…

If we love our kids through every decision and every move they make … they will FEEL that love in their hearts.

I felt it from mine.

That love will carry your children through all the pain and all the happiness.

So when it’s hard to know just how to discipline or work through a disagreement with your child.. stop and think of how your actions show love?

Love will change the world, one child at a time.

It starts with how we parent. When we parent with LOVE as the goal everyday… our children will benefit through indescribable ways.

That’s the only thing I know about parenting …that loving our kids through thick and thin is the key.

And guess what?

As long as that’s all we know… To love our children unconditionally … it all works out in the end.

Good luck parents!

You got this:)

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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5 Helpful Ways to Deal with Change …

In today’s world, with a major pandemic … there has been a lot of change.

Change is not always comfortable.

And yet, it’s inevitable in life that things will change.

As I have pondered different ways I have dealt with change, I decided to make a list.

Hopefully this list can help you with whatever change you are dealing with.

Just remember “comfort retards growth.”——G. Henry

Therefore— change can be a good thing. Just learning and adjusting to change is key.

1- Find your support system.

Any kind of chance is hard, reach out to others that you are kind and loving towards you. Lean on them to express the struggles you’re dealing with. Also let them know if all the good that is happening omg because of the change.

2. Keep a daily gratitude journal specific to why you’re grateful for the “change” you experienced.

There is always something small that you can be grateful for. Even amidst the current pandemic I know I have personally been grateful for the extra family time we’ve had together.

3. Don’t set unlikely expectations.

Meaning, don’t think that because you moved somewhere new. all your previous issues will melt away. Take things a day at a time.

4. Embrace the idea that there will hard days. Yes— embrace it.

Somehow this change, this uncomfortable hard thing that you’re experiencing … will shape you into the person you will be.

5. Remember that “tomorrow is a new day.” Or the age-old saying of “things get easier in time.”

So give yourself TIME to accept the change. And truly — GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!

What helps you deal with change ?

Would love to hear in the comments below!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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A Favorite Quote About Children ….

Me and my sweet girl

I think there are no truer words when it comes to parenting.

I felt this love and continue to feel this deep-rooted love from my parents.

As a parent myself now, I hope my sweet children can sense this love from my husband and me.

Such a beautiful quote, and a wonderful reminder to shower our children with love.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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4 Podcasts to Listen to…

1. Mint Arrow Messages:

this podcast is uplifting and catches my interest with the variety topics they cover. They talk about marriage, parenting, addiction, grief and the list goes on and on.

They always invite great guest speakers too which is always fun!

2. Better Than Happy by Jody Moore:

Jody Moore has a fun and motivating podcast. She talks about improving yourself in a variety of ways. She adds some great guest speakers, and keeps conversation interesting and engaging.

3. Stuff You Missed in History Class:

If you haven’t listened to this podcast, you’ll enjoy it! This podcast goes into detail about fun, and intriguing items that took place in history, that aren’t always discussed or well-known.

If you enjoy history at all, you’ll love this podcast!

4. The Key Nutrition Podcast:

Brad Jensen is the man behind the key nutrition podcast and he does an excellent job talking about health and nutrition.

This podcast has some great guest speakers and the topics are intriguing and motivating. If you want to learn more about health and nutrition this podcast is excellent.

These are the current podcasts that I’m listening to.. I would love to hear what podcasts you’re listening to in the comments below.

Until next time,

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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What Caused the Wedge Between Us? — A Poem Reflecting Break-ups & Divorce.

You may have already guessed, but my way of dealing with emotions is most often through writing.

Writing is therapy for me.

I write this poem, not about my own personal marriage, but as a reflection of marriages and relationships within my family and friends that have broken up.

It’s hard to deal with divorce and break ups.

For me personally, it was a great moment to sit back and reflect and even encourage my spouse to reflect on our own relationship and consider our struggles and strengths.

Perhaps it will give you a moment to pause and reflect on your own relationship.

For we know, relationships are so fragile and delicate.

I hold no judgement toward broken marriages and relationships.

As I know each relationship has its own story.

I don’t have all the answers.

I just have thoughts from this simple poem below.

What caused the Wedge Between Us?

What caused the wedge between us ?

Will we ever know?

It started out so little, but it did continue to grow.

Was it a lack of time together ?

Or perhaps our values weren’t the same?

What caused the wedge between us?

I wish it would go away.

Perhaps it was not talking at dinner,

Or spending time with others,not each other.

Our progression as a couple was not growing linear,

Instead it was growing apart.

But didn’t we love each other?

And commit to have each other’s hearts?

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s pulling us apart.

Was it the lack of simple “I love yous?”

Or no hugs when we got home from the day?

Maybe our hobbies never included each other?

Or our stressors became too much in the way?

What caused the wedge between us?

Will it ever go away?

I feel like our relationship is drowning,

A relationship I just can’t seem to save.

When did our commitment get thrown on the back burner?

How did we let it get this way?

Was it not taking walks while holding hands,

Or was it simply a love that decided to fade?

And now this wedge between us,

It’s haunted us so long,

It’s taken it’s course, it smothered our path

And now our relationship is gone.

The wedge won its big battle

It grew and it grew and it grew.

It wasn’t just one little thing,

It was all the little things we did NOT do,

No holding hands nor hugs nor talks,

We chose hobbies instead of each other,

Our everyday life was made up of a universe without the relationship at the front and center.

So a wedge was made, so small at first..

Nobody thought much of it.

And yet time is a beast, as it created the wedge that became bigger and greater than ever.

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s simply easy to tell,

The relationship wasn’t a priority for every second— of everyday, and time pushed that wedge in the way.

And the wedge won.

So if there’s a wedge between you, decide now what small simple thing you can do..

Start now, this minute, working against a wedge is hard…

Can you fight it?

You can.

But-you must both fight it.

The wedge must be pushed away from both sides,

One sided will push the wedge into the other relationship. It can not be one-sided,

And if the wedge is not fought by both sides,

I’m afraid it’s just a matter of time,

Before the wedge wins,

And the relationship draws the line.

And the couple can’t comprehend:

“What caused the wedge between us?“

—C.N. Austin

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11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Newborn Baby…

Having a newborn can be so incredible and amazing. And yet, it also can be challenging and exhausting.

When I became a new mom I felt like I knew the basics:

– Sleep when baby sleeps

-You will be tired and that’s ok

– Swaddle your baby

-Change the Diaper every 2-4 hours

And the list goes on.

Well, there was still A LOTTT I did not know about having a newborn, so hopefully this can be helpful to you!

side view photo of smiling woman carrying her baby
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THINGS I WISH I NEW BEFORE HAVING A NEWBORN BABY

  • Everyone parents differently, because EVERYONE has different children. Don’t listen to everyone’s “advice,” take them into account and do what is best for YOU and YOUR baby.
  • Give your babies vitamin D drops everyday.
  • When your baby sleeps, you can get a few things done if it’s stressing you out. HOWEVER, if you can catch up on rest and sleep while the baby is sleeping–DO IT!

  • You shouldn’t work out for 6-8 weeks after having a baby. But if you can go on short walks, just enough to move around and get outside it helps. Moving your body is so key to a healthy mental state.
  • Pay to get newborn pictures taken. Babies change so fast and getting nice pictures of them is priceless.
  • Having a baby is time consuming. It’s such a beautiful stage of life, but it can be enduring. Make sure you take time for some self-care. Have a hobby that you are working on, go to the store alone, or dinner with friends. Being a new mom is wonderful, and yet, completely changing ALL the norms is hard. It’s important to take care of YOU so that you can be a happier mom for that sweet baby.
  • If breastfeeding is hard, enduring and not working well, don’t do it, and don’t feel guilty about it. Period.

  • Take care of your baby’s bum to prevent diaper rash. Be faithful about putting ointment on their bum so that they are not sore and miserable.
  • If your baby is crying most the day, take the baby to the doctor. If things are not changing and the baby is still crying, let the doctor know it is getting overwhelming. Try second opinions such as chiropractors, chiropractors know some great things for colicky babies
  • Invest in an owlet if at all possible. It’s a foot monitor that can give you peace of mind that your baby is breathing and sleeping well.
  • Keep some type of journal or log of your baby’s growth and development. It is so much fun to look back on baby milestone, and it reminds you what a blessing it is to have your sweet little baby!
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Enjoy the moments with your little one, it’s a heavenly experience in so many ways.

And as always, if you have more items you would add to my list, let me know in the comments below.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Why I keep “dating” my husband …

Date nights?

Maybe you’re not sure what that is, or why people have date nights?

Well, I can tell you that date nights in our marriage are not just important .. they are VITAL.

And even though I know I’m not a marriage expert by any means .. I know date nights are vital for ALL couples.

Our engagement photo (2014)

So here is why I keep “dating” my husband:

1-Communication with each other. It’s easy to get busy with kids and work and such, and forget to take time as a couple to just talk, to connect and to communicate with each other.

2- Growing deeper in our understanding of one another. What does this mean? Talking about the highlights and low points of our days, weeks and year—and understand where our spouse is struggling or excelling. By understanding each other more, we can empathize with each other more and connect in a more positive way.

3- Physically being near one another. I remember going to dinner with my husband and having the thought “goodness my husband has the best smile.” Just taking time to physically “fall in love” with each other again is key.

One of our first overnight getaways after the kids were born.

4- Emotional and spiritual bonding. If couples aren’t going out together, it’s difficult to grow emotionally and spiritually. Driving in the car and having a deep discussion without interruption may be an example of an emotional or spiritual connection. It’s hard to make these connections with a spouse when there’s a lot of distraction all around.

5-Strengthening friendship. At the end of the day your spouse should not only be a friend, but I would argue your spouse should be your best friend. Spending time with your spouse is a key component to creating a strong friendship. And friendships must continue to be nurtured. Even the best friendships can be broken if there is little to not time spent to help keep them strong.

6- Sharing beautiful moments with each other. Your spouse is the one that will experience life with you, so who better to share beautiful moments with than your sweet spouse?

I know for me personally, I look forward to date nights more than pretty much anything. Having a moment to be exclusively and solely with my spouse is a time to reconnect and prioritize relationships.

If you have young kids, understand it’s not selfish to go on date nights. Those children need to see their parents dating and in love. The example of prioritizing the marriage relationship is key.

My husband truly has the best smile!

My parents have been married over 50 years and something that warms my heart is that they go on date nights weekly!

It doesn’t matter that my parents have been together longer than they’ve been apart. Their friendship and relationship is prioritized as very important and what a tribute it is to see them enjoying each other’s company for so many years and making time for date nights!

So if you’re married, take time for the date night!

I could write in depth about the importance of date nights but just know, it’s so important for so many reasons.

Do you and your spouse go on date nights ?

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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How My Prayers Have Changed as I have Aged…

I remember I was twenty-seven years old praying for the same things over and over and over again.

One day, it dawned on me, and truthfully hit me hard when the thought came to mind “it’s not always the way you want it Christy.”

Yes, it took twenty-seven years for me to understand that I needed to stop telling Heavenly Father every thing I wanted in life, and I needed to start praying that I handled my current situation well, no matter what the end result may be.

You see, it took me a bit to find my husband. For years I prayed for a husband and a family.

One day, with a tear-stained face, I said a prayer and I had the overwhelming thought to “pray to be ok with being single for now.”

No, I didn’t want to be single. But you see, I was struggling with this “single identity.”

In my mind, I was not ENOUGH because I was still single. My self-esteem was rock bottom and I knew it was time to change my prayers and TRULY talk to God.

I knew it was time to tell my Heavenly Father my struggles and trials with being single, and then be in tune enough to listen and try to understand how to deal with my situation better.

Fast forward 8 years … and now I have that wonderful husband and 3 beautiful children .

My cute husband and 3 kids.

My family brings me so much joy, but I also have worries.

From health issues, to safety, to my kids social life… I worry about my little kids a lot. And always, pretty much always, in the back of my mind is my baby girl and her heart problem.

Baby girl was born with WPW, an extra circuit in her heart that can cause an arrhythmia to start and can be very dangerous.

So far baby girl has done well with this condition, but it truly can haunt me if I let it.

So what do I say in my prayers with all the worries and woes that come with having a beautiful family?

I thank my Heavenly Father for the many blessings we have, I ask for many blessing to come, and I plead with him to help me through the current situation that we are in.

We all know that God knows the big picture that we can’t see.

So why do we forget that he knows best how to navigate the present time and can keep us on a happy, healthy track?

Every stage of life we are in, comes with amazing blessings.

And yet, every stage of life comes with some really tough burdens.

Don’t leave those burdens for you alone to lift.

I know God can help us lift those burdens.

He can help us through prayer if we remember to ask “how can I navigate my current hardship?” Instead of “take away this terrible burden that is too much for me to carry.”

Here is a wonderful scripture related to this topic. The scripture is found in The Book of Mormon:

Mosiah 24:14 And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions.

So I ask you, what burden can you pray to our Heavenly Father about?

And this time, instead of asking God to take away that burden, ask Him to help you know how to carry it.

I know God is there to help.

God may not answer our prayers according to our desire.

God may not take away some heavy burdens…

But I know Heavenly Father will ALWAYS help us through our struggles.

This I have no doubt.

I hope it doesn’t take you twenty-seven years to learn this, like it did me.

I Pray that you can turn to HIM always.

Have a beautiful Sunday and a joyous week!

Xoxo,

Christy Lee