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Motherhood unfiltered – a moment that was priceless

For everyone in those years of motherhood where all the children are cute and young, adorable but very dependent … today was a day!

Fatigue settles in and I had high hopes of taking a nap while my two little ones napped hoping my older son would play with some toys or draw a picture…. something, anything.

Just as I was getting my son situated to not need me for a bit… my baby woke up, her nap was over and now my chance to rest was gone.

This is not the first time this has happened so I’ve told myself to never get my “heart -set” on taking a nap… and yet it’s hard to keep going when energy levels are low.

But we do keep going because we are moms and we know that’s what our family needs us to do right?

Baby girl with her fancy sunglasses

Well we had some errands to run and I promised the kids a vanilla ice cream come from McDonalds after errands.

Baby girl who is 16 months had her first ice cream cone and she was messier than ever but loved it so much!

I took baby girl out of the car seat and sat down by her, eye level, to clean her face.

I meant to say “give mommy a lick,” because the ice cream looked tasty and it was dripping everywhere… but instead I said “give mommy kiss.”

Well that little cutie puckered up her ice cream face and went in for the biggest kiss and love.

And then when I asked for another kiss she walked away and was too busy.

It literally melted my heart because the kiss came unexpectedly and so quick, but it was so genuine and sweet.

That little kiss from baby girl reminded me that these little ones may be precious to us, but we are so precious to them.

My 2 sweet girls

Our kids love us and show us small acts of endearment throughout the day, if we can just focus on seeing the love.

That little surprise kiss today was the best “pick me up,” and I forgot about how tired I had felt.

When my oldest climbs in for cuddles … my heart melts

I’ve heard it said a million times, but right when we think we as parents are teaching our kids all the important things in life… it’s truly the children that have been teaching us all along.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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What I Have Learned About Strengthening Spirituality

This past month, my focus as been on strengthening my spirituality.

If you are just now following, I created a free template, to work towards 20 days of strengthening spirituality.

As I reflect on how this past month has gone, as I have sought to make a point everyday to strengthen my spirituality, I have learned a few things:

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1- I don’t make enough time for “peace and quiet.”

2- Planning time during the day to read scriptures or listen to uplifting talks, is not very hard to do and I always leave feeling happier. So why not do this more?

3- It’s enjoyable to discuss spirituality with others.

4- Keeping a strong sense of spirituality keeps me balanced mentally, emotionally and physically.

5- Striving to strengthen my spirituality has uplifted me and enlightened me.

6- Strengthening my spirituality has made me feel more gratitude.

There are many more items I could list about what I have learned from focusing on my spirituality this month, however, these points above are the main highlights.

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I want to keep this spiritual focus in my life, not just for certain time periods, but ALWAYS.

Whether you are a member of my same religion or viewpoints, I would encourage all of you to do what you can to increase and strengthen your relationship with God.

It’s amazing the peace and power that can be within you when we increase and strengthen our spirituality.

What do you do to strengthen yourself spiritually?

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Life Lately

How is your January looking ?

For our little family … we are getting back into a routine with things.

Makell loves baby cuddles.

My oldest son goes to kindergarten Monday-Thursday, and I’m learning how to teach him on Fridays… and it’s been fun!

My son has learned a lot this year —it’s crazy to see him sounding out words and recognizing words. He doesn’t always want to do school work, and I don’t push him too much because at the end of the day, I want school to be fun for him.

Cade -5 years old loving his Star Wars book

Cade, our boy, has a neighbor friend that comes to play most days .. and he looks forward to playing everyday. Cade is our social boy and loves people.

Makell— (3 years) our middle child and oldest daughter, she has enjoyed preschool two days a week.

Makell loves to be like her big brother so she feels pretty special to be in school.

Makell loves art and drawing and has learned to write an “M” and an “O” and an “A” on papers.

Makell is so nurturing and caring. Nobody takes care of their dolls better than Makell. Makell’s baby dolls are always wrapped up nice sleeping ..all over the house.

We find piles of dolls or stuffed animals neatly placed throughout the house.

Makell also has a sassy side and I would put money down that she has the loudest cry of all the girls out there.

We love our sweet Makell and it’s fun listening to her talk and grow.. her vocabulary has grown so much in the past little while.

Makell- 3 yrs. old

Taya can be summed up as cute and busy!

She started taking a few walking steps at Thanksgiving and is walking longer and longer now.

She opens and dumps out anything she can, she tries to eat everything, and she is copying many of the words we say.

Taya is known as “smiley” because she truly is smiling about 90% of the time.. and we love that about her.

Yes she can get mad when she doesn’t get her way, but we love her so much.

Taya 14 months

My husband stays busy with a busy job, church calling, and he’s such a hard working father and husband.

My husband, Brad, is handy and can figure out how to build or fix about anything.

He has learned to bake bread and that is our family’s Sunday activity… and then we deliver a bunch of bread to people who may enjoy it.

Brad is so good at serving others, his focus is always on how he can help others.

Brad is great to get a workout in, and he also takes time to study his scriptures daily and write in his journal.

As for me.. my cute little family keeps me busy! There is never a dull moment with three young kids.

I always challenge myself throughout the day to tidy something in the house … just because these days we have a lot of toys everywhere and if I can find a few spaces to de-clutter, I feel accomplished and more organized.

I love to cook and enjoy trying new gluten-free recipes.

I also stay busy with a church calling. My goal this month has been to strengthen myself spiritually and it’s been so good for me to focus on my spiritual goals.

Mom and baby up early and getting some cuddles.

I am in a workout class and have enjoyed building and strengthening muscles .. as well as losing weight.

This blog always keeps me thinking —and I enjoy the challenge of this blog. I also just love to write.

I have had fun putting makeup on faces … as some of you know I’m a Seint artist.

I have enjoyed watching “The Crown” while folding laundry or while running on the treadmill.

And honestly I can say , life is busy —yet so wonderful all wrapped in one.

I will note, the winter time can be a bit hard on me mentally. Perhaps it’s the lack of sun and being indoors more… but I’m trying to be aware of this factor about myself and push through it.

I talk to my sweet mom pretty much everyday and she is such a sweet and uplifting voice for me.

And I can’t forget how nice it’s been to visit with friends lately, even if it’s Marco Polo.

Our life lately has been wonderful… we look forward to this upcoming year with positivity and happiness.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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What I do know about Parenting

Let’s be honest, there is A LOT that I don’t know about parenting.

Even when three young kids, somedays I roam the parenting life oblivious to what I should be doing.

However, I always remind myself that the things I DO KNOW about parenting, help me get through all that I don’t know.

My sweet little family. ❤️

So let’s start with what I don’t know about parenting.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get all of my kids to sleep through the night, in their beds, period. We have tried the books and the help and we still end up with one…sometimes two kids in our bed.

Our kids are young…5 years, 3 years, and 1 year old.

We had a big earthquake here back in March and I can honestly say my three year old daughter has never slept the same since then.

So I admit, I don’t know how to get my kids to sleep well through the night.

I also don’t know how to deal with the different emotions and personalities that each child has.

All three of my kids are very different from each other, and they respond to discipline, love, and all things differently.

It’s a learning curve, maybe one day I will figure it out, but not right now.

Reading time with dad❤️

What I don’t know about parenting is how to get my kids to eat every meal without a fight, or without having to fix a separate side meal for some of my kids.

I have picky eaters, and I don’t know how to make them like certain foods.

Is it possible to make kids like certain foods?

I don’t know that.

What I don’t know about parenting is how to make sure I am meeting all of my children’s emotional needs.

There is no sign or signal that let’s us know if we are helping our children emotionally to the capacity that they each need. Is it possible to know that?

What I don’t know about parenting is how to be a kind, patient mom when trying to get kids packed into the van to get to school on time.

I am sure some parents have this figured out, but I don’t. I can bribe kids…that way I am not raising my voice as much, but I’m not sure that quite counts?

What I don’t know about parenting is …a continual thing.

However ….

What I DO KNOW about parenting is that the love a parent has for a child is indescribable.

And if we as parents can transfer that LOVE into every interaction we have with our kids….

Then we have EVERY part of parenting figured out.

Our cute kids playing together with smiles ❤️

We won’t have all the answers … raising children takes me to my knees a lot, asking Heavenly Father what I can do to be a better parent.

And what I feel from Heavenly Father is LOVE— and that is always the answer.

Love your kids through everything.

Love them through the tantrums and the heartache.

Love your kids through successes and honors…

If we love our kids through every decision and every move they make … they will FEEL that love in their hearts.

I felt it from mine.

That love will carry your children through all the pain and all the happiness.

So when it’s hard to know just how to discipline or work through a disagreement with your child.. stop and think of how your actions show love?

Love will change the world, one child at a time.

It starts with how we parent. When we parent with LOVE as the goal everyday… our children will benefit through indescribable ways.

That’s the only thing I know about parenting …that loving our kids through thick and thin is the key.

And guess what?

As long as that’s all we know… To love our children unconditionally … it all works out in the end.

Good luck parents!

You got this:)

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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5 Helpful Ways to Deal with Change …

In today’s world, with a major pandemic … there has been a lot of change.

Change is not always comfortable.

And yet, it’s inevitable in life that things will change.

As I have pondered different ways I have dealt with change, I decided to make a list.

Hopefully this list can help you with whatever change you are dealing with.

Just remember “comfort retards growth.”——G. Henry

Therefore— change can be a good thing. Just learning and adjusting to change is key.

1- Find your support system.

Any kind of chance is hard, reach out to others that you are kind and loving towards you. Lean on them to express the struggles you’re dealing with. Also let them know if all the good that is happening omg because of the change.

2. Keep a daily gratitude journal specific to why you’re grateful for the “change” you experienced.

There is always something small that you can be grateful for. Even amidst the current pandemic I know I have personally been grateful for the extra family time we’ve had together.

3. Don’t set unlikely expectations.

Meaning, don’t think that because you moved somewhere new. all your previous issues will melt away. Take things a day at a time.

4. Embrace the idea that there will hard days. Yes— embrace it.

Somehow this change, this uncomfortable hard thing that you’re experiencing … will shape you into the person you will be.

5. Remember that “tomorrow is a new day.” Or the age-old saying of “things get easier in time.”

So give yourself TIME to accept the change. And truly — GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!

What helps you deal with change ?

Would love to hear in the comments below!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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A Favorite Quote About Children ….

Me and my sweet girl

I think there are no truer words when it comes to parenting.

I felt this love and continue to feel this deep-rooted love from my parents.

As a parent myself now, I hope my sweet children can sense this love from my husband and me.

Such a beautiful quote, and a wonderful reminder to shower our children with love.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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4 Podcasts to Listen to…

1. Mint Arrow Messages:

this podcast is uplifting and catches my interest with the variety topics they cover. They talk about marriage, parenting, addiction, grief and the list goes on and on.

They always invite great guest speakers too which is always fun!

2. Better Than Happy by Jody Moore:

Jody Moore has a fun and motivating podcast. She talks about improving yourself in a variety of ways. She adds some great guest speakers, and keeps conversation interesting and engaging.

3. Stuff You Missed in History Class:

If you haven’t listened to this podcast, you’ll enjoy it! This podcast goes into detail about fun, and intriguing items that took place in history, that aren’t always discussed or well-known.

If you enjoy history at all, you’ll love this podcast!

4. The Key Nutrition Podcast:

Brad Jensen is the man behind the key nutrition podcast and he does an excellent job talking about health and nutrition.

This podcast has some great guest speakers and the topics are intriguing and motivating. If you want to learn more about health and nutrition this podcast is excellent.

These are the current podcasts that I’m listening to.. I would love to hear what podcasts you’re listening to in the comments below.

Until next time,

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

What Caused the Wedge Between Us? — A Poem Reflecting Break-ups & Divorce.

You may have already guessed, but my way of dealing with emotions is most often through writing.

Writing is therapy for me.

I write this poem, not about my own personal marriage, but as a reflection of marriages and relationships within my family and friends that have broken up.

It’s hard to deal with divorce and break ups.

For me personally, it was a great moment to sit back and reflect and even encourage my spouse to reflect on our own relationship and consider our struggles and strengths.

Perhaps it will give you a moment to pause and reflect on your own relationship.

For we know, relationships are so fragile and delicate.

I hold no judgement toward broken marriages and relationships.

As I know each relationship has its own story.

I don’t have all the answers.

I just have thoughts from this simple poem below.

What caused the Wedge Between Us?

What caused the wedge between us ?

Will we ever know?

It started out so little, but it did continue to grow.

Was it a lack of time together ?

Or perhaps our values weren’t the same?

What caused the wedge between us?

I wish it would go away.

Perhaps it was not talking at dinner,

Or spending time with others,not each other.

Our progression as a couple was not growing linear,

Instead it was growing apart.

But didn’t we love each other?

And commit to have each other’s hearts?

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s pulling us apart.

Was it the lack of simple “I love yous?”

Or no hugs when we got home from the day?

Maybe our hobbies never included each other?

Or our stressors became too much in the way?

What caused the wedge between us?

Will it ever go away?

I feel like our relationship is drowning,

A relationship I just can’t seem to save.

When did our commitment get thrown on the back burner?

How did we let it get this way?

Was it not taking walks while holding hands,

Or was it simply a love that decided to fade?

And now this wedge between us,

It’s haunted us so long,

It’s taken it’s course, it smothered our path

And now our relationship is gone.

The wedge won its big battle

It grew and it grew and it grew.

It wasn’t just one little thing,

It was all the little things we did NOT do,

No holding hands nor hugs nor talks,

We chose hobbies instead of each other,

Our everyday life was made up of a universe without the relationship at the front and center.

So a wedge was made, so small at first..

Nobody thought much of it.

And yet time is a beast, as it created the wedge that became bigger and greater than ever.

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s simply easy to tell,

The relationship wasn’t a priority for every second— of everyday, and time pushed that wedge in the way.

And the wedge won.

So if there’s a wedge between you, decide now what small simple thing you can do..

Start now, this minute, working against a wedge is hard…

Can you fight it?

You can.

But-you must both fight it.

The wedge must be pushed away from both sides,

One sided will push the wedge into the other relationship. It can not be one-sided,

And if the wedge is not fought by both sides,

I’m afraid it’s just a matter of time,

Before the wedge wins,

And the relationship draws the line.

And the couple can’t comprehend:

“What caused the wedge between us?“

—C.N. Austin

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11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Newborn Baby…

Having a newborn can be so incredible and amazing. And yet, it also can be challenging and exhausting.

When I became a new mom I felt like I knew the basics:

– Sleep when baby sleeps

-You will be tired and that’s ok

– Swaddle your baby

-Change the Diaper every 2-4 hours

And the list goes on.

Well, there was still A LOTTT I did not know about having a newborn, so hopefully this can be helpful to you!

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THINGS I WISH I NEW BEFORE HAVING A NEWBORN BABY

  • Everyone parents differently, because EVERYONE has different children. Don’t listen to everyone’s “advice,” take them into account and do what is best for YOU and YOUR baby.
  • Give your babies vitamin D drops everyday.
  • When your baby sleeps, you can get a few things done if it’s stressing you out. HOWEVER, if you can catch up on rest and sleep while the baby is sleeping–DO IT!

  • You shouldn’t work out for 6-8 weeks after having a baby. But if you can go on short walks, just enough to move around and get outside it helps. Moving your body is so key to a healthy mental state.
  • Pay to get newborn pictures taken. Babies change so fast and getting nice pictures of them is priceless.
  • Having a baby is time consuming. It’s such a beautiful stage of life, but it can be enduring. Make sure you take time for some self-care. Have a hobby that you are working on, go to the store alone, or dinner with friends. Being a new mom is wonderful, and yet, completely changing ALL the norms is hard. It’s important to take care of YOU so that you can be a happier mom for that sweet baby.
  • If breastfeeding is hard, enduring and not working well, don’t do it, and don’t feel guilty about it. Period.

  • Take care of your baby’s bum to prevent diaper rash. Be faithful about putting ointment on their bum so that they are not sore and miserable.
  • If your baby is crying most the day, take the baby to the doctor. If things are not changing and the baby is still crying, let the doctor know it is getting overwhelming. Try second opinions such as chiropractors, chiropractors know some great things for colicky babies
  • Invest in an owlet if at all possible. It’s a foot monitor that can give you peace of mind that your baby is breathing and sleeping well.
  • Keep some type of journal or log of your baby’s growth and development. It is so much fun to look back on baby milestone, and it reminds you what a blessing it is to have your sweet little baby!
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Enjoy the moments with your little one, it’s a heavenly experience in so many ways.

And as always, if you have more items you would add to my list, let me know in the comments below.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

Why I keep “dating” my husband …

Date nights?

Maybe you’re not sure what that is, or why people have date nights?

Well, I can tell you that date nights in our marriage are not just important .. they are VITAL.

And even though I know I’m not a marriage expert by any means .. I know date nights are vital for ALL couples.

Our engagement photo (2014)

So here is why I keep “dating” my husband:

1-Communication with each other. It’s easy to get busy with kids and work and such, and forget to take time as a couple to just talk, to connect and to communicate with each other.

2- Growing deeper in our understanding of one another. What does this mean? Talking about the highlights and low points of our days, weeks and year—and understand where our spouse is struggling or excelling. By understanding each other more, we can empathize with each other more and connect in a more positive way.

3- Physically being near one another. I remember going to dinner with my husband and having the thought “goodness my husband has the best smile.” Just taking time to physically “fall in love” with each other again is key.

One of our first overnight getaways after the kids were born.

4- Emotional and spiritual bonding. If couples aren’t going out together, it’s difficult to grow emotionally and spiritually. Driving in the car and having a deep discussion without interruption may be an example of an emotional or spiritual connection. It’s hard to make these connections with a spouse when there’s a lot of distraction all around.

5-Strengthening friendship. At the end of the day your spouse should not only be a friend, but I would argue your spouse should be your best friend. Spending time with your spouse is a key component to creating a strong friendship. And friendships must continue to be nurtured. Even the best friendships can be broken if there is little to not time spent to help keep them strong.

6- Sharing beautiful moments with each other. Your spouse is the one that will experience life with you, so who better to share beautiful moments with than your sweet spouse?

I know for me personally, I look forward to date nights more than pretty much anything. Having a moment to be exclusively and solely with my spouse is a time to reconnect and prioritize relationships.

If you have young kids, understand it’s not selfish to go on date nights. Those children need to see their parents dating and in love. The example of prioritizing the marriage relationship is key.

My husband truly has the best smile!

My parents have been married over 50 years and something that warms my heart is that they go on date nights weekly!

It doesn’t matter that my parents have been together longer than they’ve been apart. Their friendship and relationship is prioritized as very important and what a tribute it is to see them enjoying each other’s company for so many years and making time for date nights!

So if you’re married, take time for the date night!

I could write in depth about the importance of date nights but just know, it’s so important for so many reasons.

Do you and your spouse go on date nights ?

xoxo,

Christy Lee