Family, Lifestyle, Relationships, Uncategorized

5 Helpful Ways to Deal with Change …

In today’s world, with a major pandemic … there has been a lot of change.

Change is not always comfortable.

And yet, it’s inevitable in life that things will change.

As I have pondered different ways I have dealt with change, I decided to make a list.

Hopefully this list can help you with whatever change you are dealing with.

Just remember “comfort retards growth.”——G. Henry

Therefore— change can be a good thing. Just learning and adjusting to change is key.

1- Find your support system.

Any kind of chance is hard, reach out to others that you are kind and loving towards you. Lean on them to express the struggles you’re dealing with. Also let them know if all the good that is happening omg because of the change.

2. Keep a daily gratitude journal specific to why you’re grateful for the “change” you experienced.

There is always something small that you can be grateful for. Even amidst the current pandemic I know I have personally been grateful for the extra family time we’ve had together.

3. Don’t set unlikely expectations.

Meaning, don’t think that because you moved somewhere new. all your previous issues will melt away. Take things a day at a time.

4. Embrace the idea that there will hard days. Yes— embrace it.

Somehow this change, this uncomfortable hard thing that you’re experiencing … will shape you into the person you will be.

5. Remember that “tomorrow is a new day.” Or the age-old saying of “things get easier in time.”

So give yourself TIME to accept the change. And truly — GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!

What helps you deal with change ?

Would love to hear in the comments below!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle, Parenting, Relationships

A Favorite Quote About Children ….

Me and my sweet girl

I think there are no truer words when it comes to parenting.

I felt this love and continue to feel this deep-rooted love from my parents.

As a parent myself now, I hope my sweet children can sense this love from my husband and me.

Such a beautiful quote, and a wonderful reminder to shower our children with love.

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Cleaning/organizing, Family, Lifestyle

Top 10 Cleaning Tips from the Cleanest People Out There..

Does anyone want the secret code to keeping a clean and tidy house?

I went on a quest to find the answer to keeping a clean and tidy home.

I reached out to five of the cleanest people I know and they handed me all the answers.

What was interesting?

In the end, most of their tips were similar if not identical.

Proving, that if you follow these tips…you can keep that clean house.

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In a way, these cleaning tips are a “lifestyle” change. It’s basically guaranteed if you follow these tips, your house will be spotless.

Here are the the top 10 cleaning tips from the cleanest people out there:

  1. Every Item in the home needs a place:

Clutter and mess can be narrowed down to this–every, single item in the home has a “home.”

Even more, put those items in their designated spots. And if there are NO designated spots for items–make one.

For example, mail can pile up and add clutter. Make a designated spot and system for mail. Recycle the junk mail, have a place for bills, magazines etc. If items are properly put in their place, then naturally–the clutter is very minimal.

A huge organization tip that was mentioned time and time again, was that all items that seem to be adding clutter need to be put in their proper places.

2. Clean up after EACH meal:

Yes you heard right. After every meal clean up right away. This means plates are washed or put in the dishwasher, the counter is wiped down, the floors are swept. The entire eating area is clean and ready for the next meal to come.

The logic behind this, is that you will have MUCH less to clean at the end of the day if you clean up after each meal.

3. Make your bed as soon as you wake up:

Basically, everyone that contributed to this post mentioned the importance of making the bed everyday.

Waking up and getting the bed made provides a fresh start and makes the room look clean and tidy.

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4. Prepare for the next day:

Meaning, get your kitchen and living space clean and tidy before bed so that when you wake up you have a clean and organized space.

If you can quickly clean the main living spaces before bed, your next day will be easier and you won’t be playing catch up with cleaning items.

You wake up in the morning with a clean slate, it sets a “clean tone” for the day.

Items suggested: Don’t leave dishes in the sink, run the dishwasher every night, wipe down kitchen counters, return items to their proper areas so there isn’t clutter throughout the house.

5. Make time to clean something everyday:

It was mentioned that the following cleaning tasks were completed on a weekly basis:

-Vacuuming

-Cleaning hardwood or tile floors

-Dusting

-Laundry

-Clean bathrooms

It was not mentioned that there were certain days to complete each task, but each and everyday, some type of cleaning task was completed to make the home feel more clean and organized.

6. Get the entire household involved in cleaning:

Whether you have a lot of kids or if it’s just you and your husband/roommate at home, get everyone involved in cleaning up.

I was always taught the phrase “many hands make light work,” and this holds true with cleaning the house.

And often times, kids enjoy cleaning more than most people think they do!

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7. Don’t start another task or activity before cleaning up the most recent task or activity:

This holds true for kids and adults. Basically, if you folded laundry, DO NOT move onto doing the dishes or running errands etc. UNTIL all the laundry is put away.

Finish cleaning tasks and you won’t constantly be playing “catch up” on cleaning the house all day.

8. Add refreshing and rejuvenating fragrances to the home:

Many of the clean people I talked to mention that they love to have a candle warmer or a diffuser with clean and refreshing scents to add to the essence of the room.

Just that little extra detail can go along way to making the house not just feel clean, but smell clean.

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9. Toss and De-clutter Items that Aren’t Being Used:

Simple and to the point, if there are items in your home that are rarely or never being used …get rid of those items!

Items that add clutter and disarray are unnecessary.

Try to de-clutter and discard items once a month so that your house stays clean and organized.

10. Don’t keep small appliances on counter tops:

Do you notice that when you go to someone’s house and their kitchen is clean and “spotless” that more often than not, there are NO small appliances stored on counter tops.

Instead, they store their small appliances such as a toaster in cupboards and shelves and pull them out as needed.

Less clutter on the counter, makes such a clean and tidy area.

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I hope these ten items can be helpful and useful to you as you strive for a clean home.

What tips would you add to the list?

I would love to hear in the comments below.

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle

A Veterans Day Tribute!

What a wonderful celebration … to celebrate our Veterans.

And we can’t forget, it’s also a day to celebrate the fallen soldiers and their families.

When I had my first child, my son, my entire perspective changed when it comes to veterans.

For years I had taught history, and I felt that I had the deep rooted respect for all veterans that had served our country.

I was wrong.

When I held my little boy close to me I remember the thought coming to mind, “I would be forever broken if something ever happened to this precious child.”

And then it struck me.

These veterans all had mothers.

And how tragic was it that some of those sweet mothers, never had their “baby’s” return into their arms.

Yet, somehow, they had to keep in living.

Perhaps knowing that you and I benefit from the freedom their child fought for… helped these broken mothers endure.

My Grandpa in his military outfit, trained soldiers preparing for WW II.

We are so deeply blessed to love in this beautiful country .. the U.S. A.

And I hope we remember everyday, not just Veterans Day,the sacrifices made for each one of us.

Thank you to all that have served our country and that continue to serve our country.

Thank you to our veterans families as they sacrifice so much as well!

Happy Veterans Day!

Xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, kids, Lifestyle

Motherhood Unfiltered Part 1.

This is a series of post that I will continue to add to because, well, it’s a HUGE part of who I am and there are so many thoughts that can go into this topic.

Motherhood unfiltered.

We live in a society of filters.

We live where something that looks amazing and beautiful … isn’t valid because it’s been manipulated in a way —in which it looses its raw identity.

Motherhood has been filtered and I want to talk about the unfiltered.

Motherhood is hard and beautiful all rolled into one.

There are moments of beauty and peace, and moments of anxiety and turmoil.

Motherhood is not easy, it is hands down the HARDEST thing I myself have ever done, and yet it is the best thing I’ve ever done as well.

Found moms blue eyeshadow.

Within a thirty minute time period, my emotions travel from happy, to sad, to excited, and mad, to laughing, to crying and on and on.

The mental exhaustion is the test of motherhood. And yet, with that comes some of the most precious moments that will ever occur in life.

Those precious moments of “I love you,” or “mommy you’re my favorite,” watching your children light up when you come home from a night out..those are the precious moments that are truly priceless.

So yes motherhood is amazing and hard —and don’t be fooled by the pictures on social media that everyone has it “figured out” better than you.

Just remember motherhood is an incredible journey …it will always have ups and downs but in end .. it will be worth the wonderful ride.

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Health & Fitness, Lifestyle, Relationships

4 Podcasts to Listen to…

1. Mint Arrow Messages:

this podcast is uplifting and catches my interest with the variety topics they cover. They talk about marriage, parenting, addiction, grief and the list goes on and on.

They always invite great guest speakers too which is always fun!

2. Better Than Happy by Jody Moore:

Jody Moore has a fun and motivating podcast. She talks about improving yourself in a variety of ways. She adds some great guest speakers, and keeps conversation interesting and engaging.

3. Stuff You Missed in History Class:

If you haven’t listened to this podcast, you’ll enjoy it! This podcast goes into detail about fun, and intriguing items that took place in history, that aren’t always discussed or well-known.

If you enjoy history at all, you’ll love this podcast!

4. The Key Nutrition Podcast:

Brad Jensen is the man behind the key nutrition podcast and he does an excellent job talking about health and nutrition.

This podcast has some great guest speakers and the topics are intriguing and motivating. If you want to learn more about health and nutrition this podcast is excellent.

These are the current podcasts that I’m listening to.. I would love to hear what podcasts you’re listening to in the comments below.

Until next time,

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Clothing & Accessories, Family, Lifestyle

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Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

What Caused the Wedge Between Us? — A Poem Reflecting Break-ups & Divorce.

You may have already guessed, but my way of dealing with emotions is most often through writing.

Writing is therapy for me.

I write this poem, not about my own personal marriage, but as a reflection of marriages and relationships within my family and friends that have broken up.

It’s hard to deal with divorce and break ups.

For me personally, it was a great moment to sit back and reflect and even encourage my spouse to reflect on our own relationship and consider our struggles and strengths.

Perhaps it will give you a moment to pause and reflect on your own relationship.

For we know, relationships are so fragile and delicate.

I hold no judgement toward broken marriages and relationships.

As I know each relationship has its own story.

I don’t have all the answers.

I just have thoughts from this simple poem below.

What caused the Wedge Between Us?

What caused the wedge between us ?

Will we ever know?

It started out so little, but it did continue to grow.

Was it a lack of time together ?

Or perhaps our values weren’t the same?

What caused the wedge between us?

I wish it would go away.

Perhaps it was not talking at dinner,

Or spending time with others,not each other.

Our progression as a couple was not growing linear,

Instead it was growing apart.

But didn’t we love each other?

And commit to have each other’s hearts?

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s pulling us apart.

Was it the lack of simple “I love yous?”

Or no hugs when we got home from the day?

Maybe our hobbies never included each other?

Or our stressors became too much in the way?

What caused the wedge between us?

Will it ever go away?

I feel like our relationship is drowning,

A relationship I just can’t seem to save.

When did our commitment get thrown on the back burner?

How did we let it get this way?

Was it not taking walks while holding hands,

Or was it simply a love that decided to fade?

And now this wedge between us,

It’s haunted us so long,

It’s taken it’s course, it smothered our path

And now our relationship is gone.

The wedge won its big battle

It grew and it grew and it grew.

It wasn’t just one little thing,

It was all the little things we did NOT do,

No holding hands nor hugs nor talks,

We chose hobbies instead of each other,

Our everyday life was made up of a universe without the relationship at the front and center.

So a wedge was made, so small at first..

Nobody thought much of it.

And yet time is a beast, as it created the wedge that became bigger and greater than ever.

What caused the wedge between us?

It’s simply easy to tell,

The relationship wasn’t a priority for every second— of everyday, and time pushed that wedge in the way.

And the wedge won.

So if there’s a wedge between you, decide now what small simple thing you can do..

Start now, this minute, working against a wedge is hard…

Can you fight it?

You can.

But-you must both fight it.

The wedge must be pushed away from both sides,

One sided will push the wedge into the other relationship. It can not be one-sided,

And if the wedge is not fought by both sides,

I’m afraid it’s just a matter of time,

Before the wedge wins,

And the relationship draws the line.

And the couple can’t comprehend:

“What caused the wedge between us?“

—C.N. Austin

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Baby, Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Newborn Baby…

Having a newborn can be so incredible and amazing. And yet, it also can be challenging and exhausting.

When I became a new mom I felt like I knew the basics:

– Sleep when baby sleeps

-You will be tired and that’s ok

– Swaddle your baby

-Change the Diaper every 2-4 hours

And the list goes on.

Well, there was still A LOTTT I did not know about having a newborn, so hopefully this can be helpful to you!

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THINGS I WISH I NEW BEFORE HAVING A NEWBORN BABY

  • Everyone parents differently, because EVERYONE has different children. Don’t listen to everyone’s “advice,” take them into account and do what is best for YOU and YOUR baby.
  • Give your babies vitamin D drops everyday.
  • When your baby sleeps, you can get a few things done if it’s stressing you out. HOWEVER, if you can catch up on rest and sleep while the baby is sleeping–DO IT!

  • You shouldn’t work out for 6-8 weeks after having a baby. But if you can go on short walks, just enough to move around and get outside it helps. Moving your body is so key to a healthy mental state.
  • Pay to get newborn pictures taken. Babies change so fast and getting nice pictures of them is priceless.
  • Having a baby is time consuming. It’s such a beautiful stage of life, but it can be enduring. Make sure you take time for some self-care. Have a hobby that you are working on, go to the store alone, or dinner with friends. Being a new mom is wonderful, and yet, completely changing ALL the norms is hard. It’s important to take care of YOU so that you can be a happier mom for that sweet baby.
  • If breastfeeding is hard, enduring and not working well, don’t do it, and don’t feel guilty about it. Period.

  • Take care of your baby’s bum to prevent diaper rash. Be faithful about putting ointment on their bum so that they are not sore and miserable.
  • If your baby is crying most the day, take the baby to the doctor. If things are not changing and the baby is still crying, let the doctor know it is getting overwhelming. Try second opinions such as chiropractors, chiropractors know some great things for colicky babies
  • Invest in an owlet if at all possible. It’s a foot monitor that can give you peace of mind that your baby is breathing and sleeping well.
  • Keep some type of journal or log of your baby’s growth and development. It is so much fun to look back on baby milestone, and it reminds you what a blessing it is to have your sweet little baby!
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Enjoy the moments with your little one, it’s a heavenly experience in so many ways.

And as always, if you have more items you would add to my list, let me know in the comments below.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Family, Lifestyle

I love this new Netflix Show!

A show that has been fun and motivating to watch on Netflix is somewhat new to Netflix called: “Get Organized with the Home Edit. “

The Home Edit is such a fun show to watch because these two women, who also have a team of organizers working under them, are professional organizers. This team of professional organizers do a fabulous job at bringing an aesthetic and organized look to any dysfunctional space.

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The Home Edit group organizes celebrity homes as well as everyday family homes.

I have learned a lot from watching all the Home Edit episodes and want to dig in and organize my house!

Some tips I have learned:

-organize in color

-edit out items or get rid of things you don’t need

-label, label, label.

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Have you watched this show yet?

Let me know a Netflix show you are enjoying.

Folding laundry is much more fun with a good show right?!

xoxo,

Christy Lee