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Baby, Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Newborn Baby…

Having a newborn can be so incredible and amazing. And yet, it also can be challenging and exhausting.

When I became a new mom I felt like I knew the basics:

– Sleep when baby sleeps

-You will be tired and that’s ok

– Swaddle your baby

-Change the Diaper every 2-4 hours

And the list goes on.

Well, there was still A LOTTT I did not know about having a newborn, so hopefully this can be helpful to you!

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THINGS I WISH I NEW BEFORE HAVING A NEWBORN BABY

  • Everyone parents differently, because EVERYONE has different children. Don’t listen to everyone’s “advice,” take them into account and do what is best for YOU and YOUR baby.
  • Give your babies vitamin D drops everyday.
  • When your baby sleeps, you can get a few things done if it’s stressing you out. HOWEVER, if you can catch up on rest and sleep while the baby is sleeping–DO IT!

  • You shouldn’t work out for 6-8 weeks after having a baby. But if you can go on short walks, just enough to move around and get outside it helps. Moving your body is so key to a healthy mental state.
  • Pay to get newborn pictures taken. Babies change so fast and getting nice pictures of them is priceless.
  • Having a baby is time consuming. It’s such a beautiful stage of life, but it can be enduring. Make sure you take time for some self-care. Have a hobby that you are working on, go to the store alone, or dinner with friends. Being a new mom is wonderful, and yet, completely changing ALL the norms is hard. It’s important to take care of YOU so that you can be a happier mom for that sweet baby.
  • If breastfeeding is hard, enduring and not working well, don’t do it, and don’t feel guilty about it. Period.

  • Take care of your baby’s bum to prevent diaper rash. Be faithful about putting ointment on their bum so that they are not sore and miserable.
  • If your baby is crying most the day, take the baby to the doctor. If things are not changing and the baby is still crying, let the doctor know it is getting overwhelming. Try second opinions such as chiropractors, chiropractors know some great things for colicky babies
  • Invest in an owlet if at all possible. It’s a foot monitor that can give you peace of mind that your baby is breathing and sleeping well.
  • Keep some type of journal or log of your baby’s growth and development. It is so much fun to look back on baby milestone, and it reminds you what a blessing it is to have your sweet little baby!
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Enjoy the moments with your little one, it’s a heavenly experience in so many ways.

And as always, if you have more items you would add to my list, let me know in the comments below.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Family, Lifestyle

I love this new Netflix Show!

A show that has been fun and motivating to watch on Netflix is somewhat new to Netflix called: “Get Organized with the Home Edit. “

The Home Edit is such a fun show to watch because these two women, who also have a team of organizers working under them, are professional organizers. This team of professional organizers do a fabulous job at bringing an aesthetic and organized look to any dysfunctional space.

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The Home Edit group organizes celebrity homes as well as everyday family homes.

I have learned a lot from watching all the Home Edit episodes and want to dig in and organize my house!

Some tips I have learned:

-organize in color

-edit out items or get rid of things you don’t need

-label, label, label.

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Have you watched this show yet?

Let me know a Netflix show you are enjoying.

Folding laundry is much more fun with a good show right?!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

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Family, Gospel Topics, Lifestyle

Sunday Thoughts: Leaving our weaknesses at the feet of Our Savior Jesus Christ….

Have you ever carried a backpack or luggage that was just to much to lift for very long?

The baggage you carried weighed you down and you literally couldn’t move forward?

I think metaphorically, we can all relate.

We ALL carry baggage.

Often times, we fight through the baggage, thinking we are strong enough, we are tough enough, we can push through it.

Guess what?

We can’t.

Even more, we shouldn’t carry that baggage.

If you are Christian, or a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints like me, we know that our Savior Jesus Christ made it possible for us to leave our “weaknesses” or our “baggage” at his feet, then we can move forward.

The Savior did not suffer so intensely, and then expect us to suffer and carry ALL our baggage through life.

The Savior suffered, so that we can be forgiven, and leave our weaknesses and our “baggage” at His feet.

What’s even more beautiful?

If YOU let Him, the Savior will literally help us take off that big heavy load we carry, bit by bit, so that we leave it all at His feet.

It is a humbling act, to realize we have weaknesses, we have baggage, and we can’t continue to carry this “heaviness” through life.

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And yet, through our own humility, we can find peace and relief. We can more forward and progress as a person as we continue to leave our “baggage” at the feet of our Savior.

The Savior loves you indefinitely. I know this and I have felt this.

The Savior does not want any of us to “buried down” with such an amount of heaviness to carry through life.

If we can reach to our Savior, and let him help us, the happiness we can feel is more than any other worldly happiness we have ever experienced.

2 Nephi 2:25 “Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.” (Book of Mormon, 2 Nephi 2:25)

The Savior wants us to have “joy” in our life, He just asks that we reach out to let Him help us.

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Reach out.

You will find him.

Be humble and know that we all have baggage that we must NOT pack through this life.

Forgiveness and repentance are the keys to feeling peace.

Remember what a bright and beautiful person you are, despite your weakness, you have so much to offer this world.

Remember you are infinitely loved by the Savior.

And drop your baggage and your weaknesses at His feet.

Feel His Peace.

And express Gratitude for His love.

Until next time!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle, Relationships

Why I keep “dating” my husband …

Date nights?

Maybe you’re not sure what that is, or why people have date nights?

Well, I can tell you that date nights in our marriage are not just important .. they are VITAL.

And even though I know I’m not a marriage expert by any means .. I know date nights are vital for ALL couples.

Our engagement photo (2014)

So here is why I keep “dating” my husband:

1-Communication with each other. It’s easy to get busy with kids and work and such, and forget to take time as a couple to just talk, to connect and to communicate with each other.

2- Growing deeper in our understanding of one another. What does this mean? Talking about the highlights and low points of our days, weeks and year—and understand where our spouse is struggling or excelling. By understanding each other more, we can empathize with each other more and connect in a more positive way.

3- Physically being near one another. I remember going to dinner with my husband and having the thought “goodness my husband has the best smile.” Just taking time to physically “fall in love” with each other again is key.

One of our first overnight getaways after the kids were born.

4- Emotional and spiritual bonding. If couples aren’t going out together, it’s difficult to grow emotionally and spiritually. Driving in the car and having a deep discussion without interruption may be an example of an emotional or spiritual connection. It’s hard to make these connections with a spouse when there’s a lot of distraction all around.

5-Strengthening friendship. At the end of the day your spouse should not only be a friend, but I would argue your spouse should be your best friend. Spending time with your spouse is a key component to creating a strong friendship. And friendships must continue to be nurtured. Even the best friendships can be broken if there is little to not time spent to help keep them strong.

6- Sharing beautiful moments with each other. Your spouse is the one that will experience life with you, so who better to share beautiful moments with than your sweet spouse?

I know for me personally, I look forward to date nights more than pretty much anything. Having a moment to be exclusively and solely with my spouse is a time to reconnect and prioritize relationships.

If you have young kids, understand it’s not selfish to go on date nights. Those children need to see their parents dating and in love. The example of prioritizing the marriage relationship is key.

My husband truly has the best smile!

My parents have been married over 50 years and something that warms my heart is that they go on date nights weekly!

It doesn’t matter that my parents have been together longer than they’ve been apart. Their friendship and relationship is prioritized as very important and what a tribute it is to see them enjoying each other’s company for so many years and making time for date nights!

So if you’re married, take time for the date night!

I could write in depth about the importance of date nights but just know, it’s so important for so many reasons.

Do you and your spouse go on date nights ?

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Cleaning/organizing, Family, kids, Lifestyle

13 Tips on Traveling With a Baby…

Traveling with a baby can be challenging because there are so many items to consider bringing.

After packing for my own three kids over the years, I came up with a list of helpful advice for parents that are traveling with a baby.

#1- Always pack an extra set of clothes and jammies because more than likely …you’ll need it.

Our sweet baby girl, 11 months old.

#2-Don’t forget the meds! The motrin, Tylenol and even vitamin d drops. Ironically— my kids tend to get sick when traveling and having these items on hand are key.

#3- Utilize ziplock bags! I use ziplock bags for medicine, diaper ointment, baby snacks … it saves things from leaking and it’s easier to find items in a ziplock bag.

#4-When packing diapers and wipes be on the safe side and plan for 10 diapers each day, and a pack of wipes every two days. This is generous, but it keeps you safe.

#5- Pack a stroller that is easiest to haul and collapses easily. Even an umbrella stroller is ideal if your child is old enough to hold their head up.

#6- Pack plenty of baby snacks and food, you can always take the extras back home.

#7- Pack at least 2 binkis and 2 bottles so that there is always a back up.

#8- Buy travel size of the following: baby lotion, baby shampoo and body wash.

#9- Bring at least 2-3 blankets.

#10- no matter the weather pack a jacket.

#11- Baby toys-Baby’s can be quite easy to entertain but grab at least 1-2 baby toys to have on hand.

#12-Bring oragel or teething ointment, you never know when their teeth may start cutting.

#13- If the baby is used to a sound machine — bring it! Losing sleep while traveling is not fun.

I hope these tips have been helpful!

As always, I would love to hear your tips as tricks when traveling with a baby.!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, kids, Lifestyle

Favorite Fall Traditions

I have to admit, I will hop on the bandwagon of fall being my favorite season!

The colors of Fall are beautiful.

I love the leaves changing, sweater season, football season, and even better.. fun family holidays and traditions.

Here are some of our favorite fall traditions that we enjoy every year and we hope you will too!

#1- Family Soup Night: often times we coordinate this around Halloween.

This soup looks heart and tasty!

Everyone brings their favorite soup and we taste all the variety of soups there .. and it ends up being a fun recipe exchanging event.

Plus- this time of year is perfect for soup!

#2- A nice drive to see the changing leaves. We are close to the mountains and enjoy taking a peaceful mountain drive.

#3- Pick out pumpkins from a pumpkin patch. If you have little ones in the family— picking out favorite pumpkins is so exciting for young kids.

You can even create a challenge like “who can find the smallest one,” “roundest one,” “biggest one,” etc.

#4- Decorate Halloween or Fall sugar cookies!

#5- Paint or carve pumpkins

What are some of your favorite fall traditions?

I would love to here!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle, Miscellaneous

My Mantra for life and why I love it…

Do you have a “Mantra” in your life?

If not, I would suggest you finding a mantra that fits you and that you can live by.

A mantra is a great reminder of how you want to live your life.

So what is my mantra?

“Faith Not Fear.”

When did this become my mantra?

Back in my early twenties I saw a very cute sign that said “Faith Not Fear,” and it stood out to me so much I had to buy it.

I looked at that sign a lot as I navigated being single.

“Faith Not Fear” helped me through grad school and working full-time.

This mantra was put to the test when we were undergoing a health diagnoses for my two-year old son.

I remember specifically having a discussion with my husband as we were going to get my son screened for cancer–which is every mother’s nightmare right?! My husband reminded me to lean more on the side of Faith and not on the side of Fear.

We were blessed to find out that my son did not have cancer, he had something called Periodic Fever Syndrome, and it still interrupts his life, but we live in Faith hoping it will continue to improve and that he will be a healthy, happy boy.

Fast forward to the fall of 2019 when my baby girl came early due to a heart condition…my husband and I again leaned on the mantra of “Faith Not Fear.”

During the Pandemic and the “unknowns” that come along with Covid-19, again, my mantra has helped me push onward and remember “Faith Not Fear.”

Or this past spring when Salt Lake City had a 5.7 earthquake with MANY large aftershocks, I had to teach my children my mantra of “Faith NOT Fear.”

You see, naturally, I am a very anxious and pessimistic person. I don’t like that side of myself, but it seems that my brain always turns to the worst case scenarios… and I KNOW it’s not good.

Finding my mantra to have FAITH, and not FEAR has truly been a blessing in my life. It pushes me everyday to remember to be strong.

I value my religious belief in God in my life, and by having Faith in all that happens in my life, is truly what helps me live life to it’s fullest every single day.

So I challenge you…..to find your mantra.

What can help you the most in life?

What represents you?

What lifts you up and makes you a better person?

A mantra can TRULY help you to focus on the good and to see the beauty around you.

I hope you find your mantra that you can live by.

As always, I would love to hear what your mantra is in the comments below.

Until next time,

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Baby, Family, Lifestyle

True Life Parenting: Expectation vs. Reality

Again with throwing out ALL the expectations, parenting fits into this as well.

Didn’t we all have those dreams and ideas of how parenting would be?

And it’s not necessarily that our dreams are taken out completely, but when it comes to the “reality” of parenting…our dreams of parenting change.

Basically, until you become parents you seem to have an idea in mind as to how it will be to raise your children.

Then—you see reality, and sometimes the only thing you can do is laugh and know that all is well, nothing is perfect including “parenthood.”

Having expectations just puts more pressure on parenting which stops you from enjoying all the moments.

Here is a list of EXPECTATION VS. REALITY in our current parenting life.

-Expectaion: I will never allow my child to throw crazy, spoiled and spontaneous tantrums because they will know that my parenting style does not allow it.

Reality: My children ALL have moments of crazy and monumental tantrums and I have no control over most of them. In fact, I have learned the better way to handle it is to walk away and not “REACT,” say a prayer, and then try my very HARDEST to talk to them gently about their poor behavior and set a consequence.

Expectation: My children will eat very healthy.

Reality: If my kids have a “taste” of a fruit and a veggie a day, I am ecstatic!

Expectation: My child will be wise beyond their years. As a former school teacher I will do all I can to have my children reading and writing and learning advanced academics before kindergarten.

Reality: My son specifically does not enjoy learning from me–his mother. I have to gear up to try my very best to get him to do ONE line of a new letter. He can write his name but sometimes forgets a letter. And you know what? I am completely satisfied because I know he is smart and will do just fine if he isn’t the very top of his class in kindergarten. He learns on his own time in his own way.

Baby girl in her onesie!

Expectation: My children will not go out in public unless they are fully clothed and groomed properly.

Reality: My baby wears just a onesie most of the time, I am happy to get out the door with me carrying some shoes for the kids, and if they have some attire on, life is good—matching clothes has been thrown out the window! Having hair done is a bonus!

Expectation: I will have a wonderful and delicious home-cooked meal for my entire family to enjoy six days a week.

Reality: My son rarely eats what the rest of us do so I start feeling like a short order chef and often get overwhelmed by the idea of what to cook for dinner.

Expectation: As a mother I will always look my best — hair, makeup and cute clothes on.

My kids recent pictures July 2020

Reality: My go-to outfit is a t shirt and sweats, a headband and a pony tail often grace my hair, and if I get a full face of makeup on —I’m extremely lucky!

Expectation: majority of my house will be clean and my kids will have set jobs to help keep the house clean.

Reality: my house has toys everywhere and at the end of the day, my kids do the basics to help clean, but they are still a bit little to help with all the household chores. So, yes my house is not the tidiest these days , and that’s ok.

My littles happily playing with toys and making a mess.

The list goes on but I just have to say … I write this to remind all of you that life doesn’t go as planned.. whether in your parenting life, work life, or whatever it may be.

It’s ok if you’re “expectations” aren’t your reality.

Should you stop creating goals and expectations ?

Nope?

Should you give yourself some grace ?

Yes.

And can I tell you something more…

I am very happy with my reality in our parenting life, it’s ok with me because at the end of the day… our little family is happy and healthy.

So before you get worried about all the “expectations” you aren’t living up to… remember that you’re not alone.

Give yourself a break.

Enjoy the little moments of your cute kids, it goes oh so fast!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Food, Gluten-Free, Recipes

The Best Eclair Dessert/ Gluten-Free

Do you like eclairs? If so, you are going to love this dessert.

Even better? This eclair dessert is gluten-free and many people don’t actually realize it’s gluten-free!

This recipe is great for family gatherings, or larger groups. One thing I can guarantee about this recipe is that it won’t last long!

I would recommend taking at least two hours to complete this recipe since you need the crust to cool before adding the pudding mixture.

If you follow the recipe, you will see it’s quite simple to make this eclair dessert, and I am sure you will add it to your favorites.

Enjoy!

ECLAIR DESSERT

Ingredients:

Crust:

1 C. gluten-free flour (I prefer cup4cup)

1 stick of butter

4 eggs

1 cup water

dash of salt.

FILLING:

1 8 -oz. pkg. softened cream cheese

1/3 cup powdered sugar

1 6-oz pkg. instant vanilla pudding

3 Cups milk

1 8-oz. container Cool Whip

Hershey’s Chocolate syrup

Instructions:

  1. Bring water to a boil then add butter. Once melted, stir in flour. This will form a stiff batter.
  2. Remove from heat and add one egg at a time, stirring to fully incorporated each time (a mixer works great).
  3. Pour into a 9 x 13 inch cake pan that has been sprayed with vegetable spray.
  4. Bake for 45 minutes or until golden brown.
  5. Remove from oven and cool completely.
  6. Mix softened cream cheese, powdered sugar, 1 cup of milk, and package of instant pudding. Mix well.
  7. Add remaining 2 cups milk, gradually mixing in well.
  8. Pour pudding mixture on top of the cooled crust.
  9. Top with cool whip.
  10. Just before serving, drizzle Hershey’s Syrup on top.
  11. Enjoy!!

I would love to hear if you end up making this. This recipe is sure to be a delicious dessert that all will enjoy….AND it’s gluten-free!

xoxo,

Christy Lee

Family, Lifestyle

Confessions of an impatient mom….

Patience is not my strong suit.

Compassion, I do pretty well, loyalty and integrity seem to be qualities I possess… but patience is a struggle.

So how then do I be a good, kind, mom to two toddlers and a baby… when I’m impatient?

Throw in a baby that is sleep regressing, and my impatient gets pretty bad!

My little 3 year old is regressing in her potty training and this mama…. lost ALL her patience today.

I yelled at this cute little girl and took her new doll into “toy jail.”

My patience was gone and my poor little 3 year old was the victim.

My cute little 3 year old daughter who loves to look “pretty”

And then you know what happened after I lost my marbles ??

I felt terrible.

I went to my 3 year old and told her I was so sorry I yelled at her, embarrassed her, and hurt her feelings.

And you know what that 3 year old did ?

She ran up to me and gave me a big hug and a kiss. It melted my mama heart.

Guess who has the best patience ?

My little ones.

They are patient with me learning the ropes as a mom to three littles, and they are patient when I’m short with them and hurt their feelings.

Kids can teach us so much.

Every night I pray to the Lord to bless me with more patience.

And right in front of my eyes, the Lord puts my own children as examples and reminds me how to be patient.

I can’t promise I’ll be a patient mom after this incident.

My weakness has always been impatience.

However, I can tell you I will work harder at not yelling, not getting so quick to get upset … I’ll look to my kids and try to be patient like they are with me.

Mommy and daughter

Bless these little ones who help us with our worst qualities.

From one impatient mom that is trying to recover!

xoxo,

Christy Lee