Guilt is not a fun emotion to feel.
In fact, I would argue that guilt can be paralyzing and keep one from progressing.
I for one deal with all sorts of “mom guilt,” and it’s a day-to-day battle.
So what is my BIGGEST mom guilt?
Well, when it comes down to it..I have guilt that I’m not doing ENOUGH for my kids.
My brain goes something like this:
-I’m not reading enough to the kids
-Are the kids getting enough veggies ?
-I’m not patient enough
-I’m not keeping the house clean enough for the kids (setting the example)
-I’m not teaching my kids enough academically
-Am I letting them watch too much tv?
-I’m not playing with my kids enough
-Im not learning to do my daughters hair well enough
-I am yelling too much
And the list goes on, and on, and on, etc.
So is there a cure to all this endless mom guilt that enters our minds?
I would say there’s HOPE.
Here’s how I handle the mom guilt:
-I pray every day, and even throughout the day that I can have strength and compassion and that I can be forgiven for my lack thereof.
-I remember to not scroll through social media and COMPARE…we all know we don’t see every side on social media, and it can be a big trap to find some “mom guilt.”
-I try to think of at least ONE thing that I did well as a mom that day. (Positivity)
-I try to keep in check with all I am thankful for in motherhood…because there is so much.
-I try to give myself some grace, no one is perfect, we are a continual work in progress…if we JUST remember that we are TRYING everyday, that is all that matters.
I will tell you some days, I have very little “mom guilt” and other days I have A LOT.
It’s a day-to-day scenario and therefor, a daily work in progress.
So if you deal with ANY mom guilt, just know you aren’t alone.
Even more, give yourself some grace and know that you are doing something wonderful just by being a mom.
I would love to hear in the comments below how you deal with mom guilt!
Until next time!